Archive for May 10th, 2016

Putting physical life in perspective

Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

QUESTION: Masters, I am working on bringing a healthier work-life balance to my life. I have changed jobs to help with this. But each time, the job becomes increasingly pressure filled and can involve long hours. I am recognizing unhealthy beliefs about work and am resetting my beliefs and setting healthy boundaries. I am also reviewing whether jobs becoming increasingly difficult may also mean that I should consider a new field of work. I am setting up a new intention of finding a job that is fun, rewarding and balanced. Am I reviewing this life lesson correctly? Are there other practices I can do to assess and feel out the best solution for me? ~Anne, USA

ANSWER: You are a workaholic and a perfectionist. You always look beyond what your job description asks for and push into the next level – which, of course, delights your employer. Who wouldn’t want an employee to do more work than they were hired to do and for which they are paid?

You are correct that it has a lot to do with your belief systems. You were brought up to believe that you should always do your best, and if you can see a way to improve a situation, you should. Your work ethic includes working as hard as you can.

This attitude has allowed many employers to take advantage of you because you have reveled in their enthusiasm for your work. This results in doing more work than can fit into the time allotted for it, hence the pressure you feel. The difficulty you sense is just a normal sensation of advancing through the various tasks.

Whether you change jobs or not is a matter of freedom of choice. Consider also if setting limits – i.e., not allowing yourself to be taken advantage of – would be sufficient to change the way you see yourself and find enjoyment in the job.

All these lessons have brought you to a normal conclusion that you have the power to shape the future. Put out those intentions of securing a position that will be fun, rewarding, and balanced. It may be in your current field or one very similar. Don’t have any preconceived expectations of what it will be. Put the intention out there, jump into the energetic flow of the universe, and let the perfect position come to you. Once on your spiritual journey, you bring to yourself what you need and want to experience.

Moving forward in secrecy

Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

QUESTION: Masters, I got emotionally and intimately involved to this man for the last five months. He and I were very much alike; we talked the same language and were very compatible in many aspects. I was investing my love energy to create a committed partnership. But he kept his life too secret and after various occasions when I demanded more sincerity and openness I finally found out two days ago that he had a girlfriend and was only using me as his lover. I am devastated. Even though I have been following a spiritual path for the last three years I fell prey to
this kind of painful and shameful experience. Who was he? Was it in a contract for this life? Where did I go wrong? Have I learned the lesson? ~Daniela, Brazil

ANSWER: Whenever you enter a relationship and do everything you think the other person wants you to do – in other words, love them completely without conditions so that they will love you as you want to be loved – you are kidding yourself that anything positive will come of the union. This is your imagination trying to create what isn’t there and somehow force the other person to become who they are not – someone you have imagined.

If you want to have a beautiful romantic connection, never spend time on anyone who is not open and forthright in all your conversations. Many people like to manipulate you by telling you what you want them to and holding back their inner desires and the fact that you are merely a new conquest for them.

This man was a master manipulator who was having fun dragging you along for his own pleasure. He was totally unconcerned about your wishes or dreams. He only cared about being able to use you, and you allowed this by not getting out of your dreaming state and demanding answers because you are so desperate for love.

Following a spiritual path only means that you are living the lessons you sought and trying to understand what they mean and how to avoid the same situation again. The main part of your lesson here is to always be in the moment and aware of what is going on, not dreaming about what you want things to be and ignoring the facts you see and feel. In the moment, you would have broken off the contact immediately when he would not open up to you.

Analyzing situations

Tuesday, May 10th, 2016

QUESTION: Masters I’ve got a co-worker I don’t get along with. We have different ways of communicating and for me her style feels hostile, and we constantly misunderstand each other no matter what. It’s depressing, especially when good communication is essential in my job. Plus it’s taxing to hear hints that you aren’t good enough of a worker. My boss also knows we’re not in good terms. What should I do with all this? What’s the point? How should we deal with difficult co-workers? ~Anne, Finland

ANSWER: You desperately want this person to like you, but that will never happen because she is jealous of you. She is the one who is spreading rumors about you not being a good enough worker because she knows you are sensitive and will hear about it and be devastated. She purposely “misunderstands” what you say so she can blame anything that goes wrong on your lack of communication. Her desire is for you to quit so she doesn’t have any competition.

This is a lesson for you in having faith in yourself and not listening to what others say about you. What is said can hurt you only if you let it. You know you are a great worker and have no trouble communicating with anyone besides this person. Don’t let her influence you. Your boss thinks this is just a personality conflict and that it will go away.

The more time you spend thinking and worrying about this person, the more impact it is having on you. Choose to ignore her. Be specific in your contact with her, and if she intentionally claims you have said something different from what you did, just let it go. Do not engage her in any type of conflict. If she sees she can no longer make you feel bad, she will stop all her nonsense.

Dealing with ridiculous people is mostly a matter of ignoring them and not letting them have any effect upon you. You know who you are, so don’t let her imply that you are anything else. Choose to be your own person.