Archive for the ‘Belief Systems’ Category

Letting others create your beliefs for you

Tuesday, November 28th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters my youngest son and his younger sister have had a horrible negative event. No one’s sure what happened but it is said his girlfriend said some nasty things about my daughter at her wedding. His girlfriend and I have talked, and she has said he just needs to get over it. That came out in a conversation with my son, and the girlfriend called me a liar and my son believes her. Now he calls me a liar which I absolutely am not. It’s a hopeless situation and I feel she has cost me my son. What is your advice on this? ~Robi, USA

ANSWER: Every person creates their own reality and what they accept as the truth in their world. Your son’s girlfriend is a trouble maker who is jealous of various members of your family. She delights in creating controversy and having control over others. At this time, your son is being manipulated by his girlfriend, who wants to separate him from the rest of the family. This is one of his life lessons: to be able to “feel” what resonates with him and what he wants to believe – a lesson in discernment.

You are not going to be able to get anyone to change their mind concerning their beliefs in this situation unless, or until, they make the decision to do so. For her to admit her nasty remarks to your daughter would be to tell on her own devious plans to put wedges between family members. For your son, he would have to take sides against the woman he thinks is his “one and only love.”

You know the only one here not telling the truth is the girlfriend. While it hurts for your son not to believe what you say, you have to see it from his perspective. Does he back up his lover or does he take the side of his family, who his girlfriend claims does not like her and is trying to break them apart? Give him time, away from the constant struggle, to reason out what is happening.

When one gets so disturbed by the words of another, it is generally because they think there could be a grain of truth in them. Continue with your confidence in what you know and disregard what she is saying.

Send the kids unconditional love that they might come to their senses and accept things as they happened, not as they would have liked them to happen. Don’t carry a grudge or judgment because that takes you into negativity and away from love. Be the spiritually loving person in the equation, carrying the love for all of you until they decide to join you.

Given up on life

Tuesday, May 30th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters I’m 48. I had my share of trials and struggles. Enlightenment was the ultimate answer to the tribulations of life. I have already had the experience of the Self and desperately sought to regain it. I even went to India to meet a “satguru” but come back feeling more inadequate and depressed than ever. Now I know there is no shortcut to awakening, no “direct path” to Self-realization. It’s programmed. The worst with this spiritual quest is that I no longer have any interest in life, no motivation, no passion. I have difficulty to be grateful for all the benefits I have, seeing Existence like a deception, a burden. Not surprising that I now suffer from fibromyalgia. How can you expect to help, inspire others in this context? ~Mabel, Canada

ANSWER: Self-realization, enlightenment, awakening, or whatever you wish to call it, is not programmed into a soul who has chosen a human experience. Your soul chose to come into this negative environment to face the problems you have before you and to work through them by understanding what they represent.

Where you are having difficulty is being inflexible with the beliefs you have ingrained in yourself. Your experiences have not met the expectations that you are convinced are the only way to go through this life.

What does enlightenment mean to you? Since you followed a satguru, it must mean whatever this person, with their Eastern philosophical reasoning, defined as the only way to peace. That is an over-simplification that they would like you to believe so that you will be true to their beliefs. There is not a single way to do anything. There are no absolutes in the physical world.

Everyone must work out their direction in life. Following another will only show you how things worked for them – it may not be appropriate for even one other person. Your lessons include self-confidence and self-worth.

Examine those things which bring fear and doubt into your life. Delve into them and find why they have appeared. Understanding and ridding yourself of these is what enlightenment is for you. This is the true self-realization. It is the actual connecting to your soul. Doing for yourself is the only thing you came to Earth to complete. You have no obligation to inspire or help others unless you have succeeded on your own and then may have the time to show them how you did it.

Fear of aging

Tuesday, May 16th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters, I have a sadness in my heart that feels like a depression when it comes to aging. I even recall crying about it as a child. It has gotten worse recently after the deaths of my grandparents and my father. Maybe because I have also struggled with a reoccurring health issue, although not terminal, it has affected me greatly and is a reminder of the disease that took my father’s life. Lately I’ve needed frequent reassurance that I still have friends and family around me and that things are going to be alright. I try to find the positives and tell myself that getting older isn’t so bad, but I just can’t shake this feeling. Why do I feel this heavy sadness, impending fear and loneliness about growing old? ~Angie, Canada

ANSWER: You have forgotten who you are – you are an eternal soul who has chosen to experience a human life for a brief period of time. This body you see in the mirror is only the covering you took on for this play in which you currently have a role. You chose to experience fear of termination or cessation of existence. One of the points you wished to learn was that you never die.

Your thoughts, fears, and need for reassurance come from the beliefs by which you have chosen to live this life. You are existing in negative thoughts and ideals. You see only the “bad” and disastrous implications of everything in your life because you see everything as being out of your control, determined by some physical force, and final.

You do not have any confidence in yourself, nor do you love yourself. You do not need others to reassure you if you recognize who you are and what abilities you have. You were broken off from Source, and just as Source is magnificent, all-powerful, and all-knowing, so are you.

Love of self comes from accepting that you have these powers and congratulating yourself on having the stamina and courage to come into this existence and face the tests you are undertaking. See yourself as an explorer who will understand that the next step is rejoining the rest of the souls back at Home where you will see everyone who has returned before you.

Aging is not just a step toward death for the body but is also the accumulation of more understanding and wisdom, both of which allow you to appreciate yourself. Connect with the spirits of your passed relatives to permit them to allay your fears.