Archive for the ‘Life Lessons’ Category

Self-justification

Tuesday, May 23rd, 2017

QUESTION: Masters, I think about separating from my husband, I believe our mission is over. We have a good coexistence, he says he loves me, but I do not believe it very much. Love exists, but not as husband and wife. We have twins, who I believe are highly evolved spirits and will not suffer from this separation, for they are very attached to me. I feel a great love for someone else, I feel that we know each other from other life. From the first time I saw him I felt something for him. He is a very spiritual person, but is a little lost, I feel a lot of desire to help him, but I do not get too involved. I wonder if he feels the same way about me. Is this feeling real, do we have a mission together here or is it just physical attraction? ~Elis, Brazil

ANSWER: You are being very specific in your analysis of what you feel love is all about. Your husband loves you as a soul sharing a lifetime with him. He respects your path even though the romantic aspects have faded from your relationship. You think only of a romantic physical love which you have been craving and have now experienced for another. For this reason, you have convinced yourself that your mission with your husband is finished.

Your rationalization has extended to thinking it won’t matter to the children if you leave their father because they are more attached to you. Yes, they are highly evolved and can sense the light has gone out between their parents, but they still love their father and will suffer the pain which will come to him when you leave.

Part of the draw towards this new man is the fact that he needs assistance. Your husband does not depend on you for his emotional needs because he is balanced while your new interest is not. You need to have someone need you. Both your twins and their father can survive on their own; this new one cannot.

You have no mission or prior agreement with the new person. Your physical attraction to him is the only motivating factor for you. He is a user and a player. He will tell you what you want to hear so that he can take advantage of your good nature. He does not love you as you think you do him.

You are correct that it may be time for you to move on from your current situation in order to learn more about life and yourself, but if you are going to do this, be sure of why you are doing it. Don’t justify your physical reactions to another by using spiritual plans and meanings. Examine your inner feelings and what you seek to get from the encounter. You will find sex alone will not sustain you for long.

Layers of guilt

Tuesday, May 16th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters, I’ve worked around feeling of guilt, not being good enough or deserving to have abundance. I took the feeling to the core where it originated – it took me back to a time during childhood. I saw how from that resisted experience I created situations that created feelings of guilt – I was able to connect the dots. I feel I have released most of these feelings from this life time but during an exercise I saw an image of a man during holocaust living with feeling guilty because of what he did to people. Is that an image of my past life and feelings I carried to this lifetime? If so, is this something I should work on. If so, how to release it? Also, anything else that I still need to release from this lifetime to continue to move forward and create the life I want. ~Marion, USA

ANSWER: Congratulations on all the work you have done so far. When a soul chooses to experience the entirety of a life lesson such as you have with guilt, you explore every iteration of it. There are two factors figuring into this life for you. First is the realization of guilt as a lesson and the solving of the pieces you experienced during this time period. You should have noticed that each reappearance was created by a slightly different set of facts, and was generally more difficult than the previous one, until you dealt with the energy holding it to your life.

The second aspect is that you have had a series of lives in which you continued to deal with guilt, but it was caused by extremely different situations. You have spent several lives in holocaust-like conditions where you blamed yourself for things occurring to you and those around you. In these lives you were also dealing with a subset of lessons concerning the need to be in control, and you felt that you were responsible for the others who shared your lifetime.

The important thing for you to put all these energies behind you, so that they do not continue to shadow your existence, is to concentrate on who you are as the soul who is having all these human experiences. In other words, you are a piece of Source energy with all the powers and abilities of Source. You create the reality within which you choose to live.

Once you walk away from judgment, which is the power of the ego, you will be able to free yourself from all negativity and exist in unconditional love. Life lessons do not occur in unconditional love. You will be able to connect with your unconscious self – your soul – and remember all that you are, how and why you have experienced lessons in the past, and also all the wisdom you gathered so that you would not have to face them again.

 

Control issues and honoring self

Tuesday, May 9th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters, I have a friend, she passed through hard times and I helped her a lot, today she is fine and we feel we are very much connected, we are fine but sometimes I feel this connection is like a prison, like I could not be freed from this friendship. Something bothers me inside about this friendship. I really don’t know why it happens and why I feel so bad in noticed I can’t have a normal life because I feel stuck in this friendship. I feel so bothered with it and I can’t be strong enough to end it if it is not so good to me. ~Luciana, Brazil

ANSWER: You have given all your power to this “friend” and she has taken total advantage of you. You have gotten her so spoiled that she thinks all she has to do is ask something and you will respond without thinking. This is happening only because you are allowing it to happen.

You are finally sensing that this is not something you want to continue, but you have gotten into such a pattern that you feel you cannot stop being the servant slave. What you are saying to her, and to yourself, is that she is more important to you than your own desires and needs, and you are giving her control of you.

Do you feel she is more deserving than you? If so, why? If not, why are you still allowing her to dictate to you? This is all about how you see yourself. You desperately want to be loved, and you felt that if you took care of her she would need you and you would feel complete. Instead, you have given up your life for hers.

To change the situation, you need to take back your life. That does not mean that you cannot help her occasionally. It only means that you should assist her only when you truly want to give your time to her.

When you first stop being her doormat, she will be upset because she no longer will control every aspect of your life. But keep asking yourself if you really want to do as she asks. If the answer is no, tell her you do not feel you can do what she wants at this time and then walk away. Gradually she will stop trying to control you.