Archive for the ‘Personal Problems’ Category

Will it help others to tell of my abuse?

Tuesday, December 3rd, 2019

QUESTION: Masters I was sexually abused by a trusted adult for many years as a child. I am healing and learning about how this ties into my lessons for this lifetime. I have felt the urge to help people who have suffered this type of abuse. I want to write and speak publicly about my experience, resilience, and healing. However, childhood sexual abuse is a very heavy topic. I have been reading teachings that encourage people to move away from thoughts that don’t feel good. Naturally, it doesn’t feel good to dwell on abuse, but I know how prevalent this type of abuse is, and I believe I have the power to help others. I also feel compelled to shine a light on this epidemic of abuse. I know only I can decide to do from here, but a nudge in the right direction would be helpful. Am I meant to help others through this work? ~Shauna, United States

[In compliance with US law, the Spirit Masters do not diagnose or prescribe for medical conditions. Their observations are spirit-based and concern life lessons. Readers may like to review details of the Masters’ booklet/ebook on healing.]

ANSWER: Most of the readings where people are told to step away from their unpleasant sensations have to do with one of two things. The first is standard psychology where the therapist tells the person to assume coping mechanisms that cover up the sadness and don’t do anything to heal or understand the causes.

The second is the spiritual principle of manifestation where the soul chooses between negative and positive energies. These choices are most easily accomplished by going into the cause and removing the trigger that is coming out as discomfort. It is in this second category that the work you suggest would benefit so many people.

Sexual abuse is a hot button issue everywhere these days, and the “me too” movement has allowed some women to speak out for the first time because judgment is set aside and their experiences are being dealt with as a stumbling block to mental health.

You fully understand the spiritual growth to awareness as to why you have chosen to experience this abuse. You may not be able to talk to everyone in spiritual terms, such as freedom of choice, but you can allow them to see that the guilt, lack of self-worth, and hiding from their trauma can be reversed.

As you have said, the choice is yours. Be assured that the path will not be easy but the benefits can be substantial. Letting others know they have a voice and can change the way they see themselves is monumental. Know that your first target group will be women’s safe houses and clubs. Start slowly and the demand for your words will continue to rise.

What should I do?

Tuesday, November 26th, 2019

QUESTION: Masters, I wonder why I’m feeling so lost. I don’t know if I give up my marriage or if I try one more time, there are times I want but there is another than not. I don’t know if I continue my life in a country that isn’t mine, or if I should go back to mine. I am always undecided. What would be my best options? ~Anita, Ireland

ANSWER: You are feeling lost because you do not wish to make decisions for yourself. You don’t want to take the responsibility of deciding something that you might not like later. You always defer to what others say and tell you to do, and then you can blame them if you are not happy. It is time to put on your big girl panties and start taking charge of your life and choices.

You never stop and ask yourself how you “feel” about an action – it is always what do I “think” about this. That means taking all the opinions of others that are stored in your brain and reviewing them. Your own feelings are never engaged or even considered.

You do not think you have the ability to see what is needed. This life’s lessons do include working with self-confidence and self-doubt, but you ignore addressing them by relying upon others instead of considering alternatives for yourself. You are saying to those around you that they are more aware of what would be “good” for you than you are. They are not in your body so that is a ridiculous proposition. It is time to honor yourself and make those choices for yourself.

Nothing is intended to be permanent on Earth; it is just one large classroom for learning. There is nothing wrong with changing your mind or direction when you do not feel comfortable where you are. Does your marriage resonate with you? If not, it is time to try something else. Don’t feel comfortable in your current locale? Move on to something else.

Always know you have time to make these decisions. Nothing should be rushed. See how each alternative feels to you. Don’t feel you have an obligation to any particular path or person – because you don’t. You wouldn’t buy an expensive outfit without trying it on first, so remember that when making decisions.

Don’t attempt to do everything at once. Take each facet of your life and see how it fits. If it is still good for you, stay there. If it makes you uncomfortable, try on the other choices.

Responsible for your reality

Tuesday, November 19th, 2019

QUESTION: Masters I have always been brought down by confidence issue. My world is very small and I don’t dare to think big which is why I haven’t gotten any further in my life at my age. I can’t imagine myself doing big things either and to the extent of even thinking of driving a car. What should I do? ~Hap, Singapore

ANSWER: Every soul creates their own reality. If you impose limitations on your world you are restricted by what you can understand and learn. It is you who sets the beliefs of possibilities. You already know that one of your life lessons chosen is that of a lack of self-confidence. But rather than addressing this issue and figuring out why it is there and what you wanted to learn from it, you have embraced it wholeheartedly and let it define you.

You have totally shied away from accepting that you are a piece of Source energy with magnificent powers and abilities. You hide in the corner and watch others doing what you have the ability to do if you were only to believe. There is nothing wrong with remaining as you are, but you will not grow in spiritual wisdom by staying still.

With your freedom of choice, you get to define who and what you are. Are you a timid little mouse or a strong elephant charging through life to gather knowledge? Certain factors from your youth made you think you were unable to deal with life. Are you going to let them triumph, or are you going to examine all those erroneous beliefs and reform them into a happier, less traumatic existence?

You are in the driver’s seat. Since you have stayed away from learning to drive, it stands to reason that you fear taking responsibility for the actions in your life. You have no choices if you don’t think you do. You then depend upon others to tell you what to think and do. Want to change that?

To create a new dynamic, you have to accept that your essence is powerful. In the deepest layer of your being, you have to want to change. You have to find out what causes the fear of responsibility. You have to start trusting yourself to make the right decisions for you. Then you have to take that first step outside the comfort zone you have created for yourself.

The universe is huge, and you have spanned its width and breadth in other lifetimes. You are missing so much by limiting your life to your small world. Continue if you wish, but the rest of society is awaiting your debut.