Archive for April, 2014

Identity crisis

Tuesday, April 29th, 2014

QUESTION: Masters, I recently uncovered a secret about my father’s life since he passed away in 2007. I learned that he had a hidden life as a gay man, while he behaved and lived his life as though he were entirely straight – remaining married to my mother for over 45 years. Knowing his favorite hobby was acting on stage in theater, I now see that he was using this skill in his everyday life to conceal his hidden identity. Although I have accepted this truth intellectually, I don’t understand something – why he would live his entire life concealing this secret? What purpose did that serve?!? I consider myself a liberal-minded person and have had friends that are gay. Why wouldn’t my father have the courage to tell me, or the family, and trust that we would love him anyway?? ~Valerie, United States

ANSWER: The life the soul of your father chose for his lifetime was one of ambiguity and duality. He was neither completely homosexual nor entirely heterosexual but today would be considered bisexual. He loved both of his lives –that of loving father and husband and that of companion to a same-sex partner.

He was very discreet in his lifestyle because he did not want to hurt either of his families. The delay in your finding out is a tribute to his stealth. His homosexual traits came at a time when he would have been condemned for them and his employment would have been jeopardized.

Had the fact come out that he had a homosexual liaison, he would have been forced to make a selection between the two lifestyles, but his then-tarnished reputation would have made it impossible for him to provide for your mother and the family in the manner he did. He loved everyone too much to take the chance of discovery.

These challenges were part of his life lessons. They had no effect on your life because you didn’t even know. Anyone who did know chose not to divulge the information to you because it could only cause confusion and harm. Would it have made a difference in the way you think of your father today if you had found out he had a mistress or an affair? What about if you found half-siblings around?

He felt he had enough love for both sides of himself. Don’t think less of him because he struggled long and hard to learn the lessons he had chosen. He is watching over you and hoping you see his life was selected for the experience it provided.

Sex of twin flames and soul mates

Tuesday, April 29th, 2014

QUESTION: Masters, there is a possibility of people of the same sex being soul mates? I have a friend, she is 16 years younger than me, we met on the web and after that we have found many things that helped on our spiritual path, spiritual things seem to be easier after we met. We live far apart and I feel like we will never meet physically. She is very sensitive to spiritual things, we are very connected despite our differences in age, personality and spiritual abilities. If we are not soul mates, why do we have such strong connection? ~Luciana, Brazil

ANSWER: You and your web mate are from the same soul group and have spent several lives together. This life, you decided that with technology you would be able to assist each other with your enlightenment processes without having to be in the same place at the same time.

The essence of all souls is an energetic, unconditionally loving intelligence. Without coming to Earth and incarnating (that is, entering a human body), the soul is without the distinction that you know as human genders. Without a body, age, sex, nationality, or any other characteristic with which you identify a particular person is irrelevant. Energy is energy.

Even when we discuss a twin flame, the last spark of Source from which you divided into your individuality, there is no talking about a particular sexual orientation. If, which is unusual, you are on the planet at the same time as your twin, you may both be the same sex and any age or nationality. Each of you has total freedom of choice to decide what you desire to experience while on Earth.

Your strong connection is a combination of your knowledge of each other from prior lives and the interest you share in finding information about your spiritual journeys. It is like being two members of a club, where age and sex are irrelevant; the subject matter being discussed becomes the only pertinent thing.

Accepting reality

Tuesday, April 29th, 2014

QUESTION: Masters, my husband and I have been together since 2001. We are both retired now (ages 65 and 72). He has some Asperger’s tendencies, has cheated and even been abusive all under the guise of a well-educated College Professor. I have prayed for years that we come to a point of mutual understanding and connection and that he learns the value of what he’s got. But every prayer seems a total waste of time. Do you see us finding connection and mutual understanding or should I pray for a different kind of life? ~Marijke, Wales

ANSWER: Your husband is an egomaniacal, abusive, manipulative beast. He fancies himself the center of the universe and will not hear anything that does not agree with that definition. In the beginning he could be charming and said the things to you which you wanted to hear, but it was all to get you into a position of committing to the life he chose.

You were in a vulnerable position when he first approached you, and this led you to create your expectation of the wonderful and respectable life you imagined being his wife would provide. Right from the start he was clear about his demands of you and you acquiesced. He didn’t hide anything but you thought he would change.

No one can make you do something you do not choose to do. You are not taking responsibility for your choices and are trying to pass off the blame to the source of your prayers. No spiritual entity can change the physical choices you have made – you have to do that yourself.

He is not going to change. You either have to make the decision to continue putting up with his abusive behavior, which isn’t stopping, or walk away from the situation. You are not going to be rescued by changing the “prayer” to one hoping for a different life. You have to take the initiative and create the life you want.