Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

What was I thinking?

Tuesday, September 24th, 2019

QUESTION: Masters why did I choose my parents and my brother and sister as my family? I find it extremely difficult to get along with them due to different values. They have created a very toxic environment for me. I am thinking of minimizing contact with my parents, but I feel that it is very unfilial of me to do so because my parents try their best to raise me despite being given bad advice. But if I don’t minimize contact, I am exposing my child to a toxic environment. ~Tired of Fighting, Singapore

ANSWER: You wanted to see if you could examine the possibilities available to you and decide for yourself how you wished to live your life. Before you became aware of enlightenment – going from ego judgment into unconditionally loving energy – you were more in line with your family. When you started accepting the feelings you were getting from the way people reacted to you and made demands of you, it was time to make choices.

Until you started realizing you had choices, possibilities you didn’t even previously know existed, you had no choice but to do what you were directed to do by others. Choices are now available that would either comply with or be diametrically opposed to your family’s beliefs.

You have freedom to choose either, neither, or a different direction entirely. One of your chosen lessons was to see if you could develop self-love and self-confidence in your own path. By following others for whatever reason, familial or societal, you are giving up your power and identity to them. A soul’s journey is a solo affair. You cannot live anyone else’s life or make worthwhile decisions for them. You do not grow unless you assume responsibility for your actions.

To progress, you must make each decision because it feels right to you, not because you believe someone else wishes it. Your parents did what they thought was the right thing to do since they followed the beliefs of the society around them. They feel strongly that everything must be rated, graded, and judged to establish its worth in the world.

From the spiritual perspective, you owe them nothing. You can still love the fact that they are being faithful to their beliefs, even though you feel they are not the right principles for you to follow. Be yourself. Do what you feel is the correct thing for your daughter’s future. You have no obligation to any other.

Not emotional about kids

Tuesday, September 17th, 2019

QUESTION: Masters two of my children seem to have chosen difficult life lessons. One seems to be bipolar and exceptionally demanding; the other is an addict. With regard to my daughter, is she really incapable of supporting herself (she wants to move back into the family home) or is she seeing how far she can go with us? I know she is an old soul and trying to experience difficult situations, but she doesn’t seem to want to help herself. She keeps threatening suicide.  The other child is apparently on a path of self-destruction.  But why do I seem so removed from the emotions that their actions should provoke? ~Jane, UK

ANSWER: Your daughter is trying to see how much you will empower her sense of irresponsibility. You have enabled her in the past, mainly due to her threats, to live the life she chooses. What you do in the future is up to you. The reason this is not having the impact on you that her actions have in the past is that you have become more aware of the spiritual energies afoot.

Everyone has freedom of choice to live their lives as they wish. In the case of people like your daughter, they try to see if they can influence others to do their bidding. This is all about lessons each is working on: one to try and be in control and the other to see if they can learn from being controlled or if they can remove themselves from the influence of the controller. You have learned to honor your choices and ignore her demands.

Your self-destructive child is very confused and is running away from life and responsibility. They deaden themselves so they don’t have to acknowledge the rest of the world. This, too, is a life lesson and their choice. Right now, they are not near to understanding what it is they wish to accomplish, but don’t give-up on them – just don’t facilitate their addiction.

Threats made by manipulators are to play on your sense of guilt and duties as a parent. Once a person starts intentionally making decisions for themselves, it is time to step away and let them see the other side of decision making – that of responsibility. Your daughter can take care of herself if she works at it, but she is lazy. It is time to let her find her way.

This isn’t bothering you so much because you sense the spiritual journeys each is undertaking. You know they will not do anything unless they choose to do it. You have moved out of judgment and are in the area of evaluation covered in unconditional love. You have held their hands long enough. Time to start letting them live the life of their choice.

What in the past affects the soul?

Tuesday, September 3rd, 2019

QUESTION: Masters, I want to know how can we figure out if the client’s problem comes from a past life or family lineage issue? What is the difference between healing a past life issue and a past life of an ancestor? What is the best way to heal the family tree patterns? ~Irina, USA

ANSWER: A soul lives a series of lives wherein it chooses the human family it will enter for any Earth life. Rarely, if ever, does it enter the same physical human lineage in subsequent lives.

The lessons it works on in each life may have some carryover into a subsequent life if they did not finish the learning of a particular desired issue and if they have chosen to revisit it in the current life. If they did not opt to address it now, the issue lies dormant until they make that choice. Their individual memories relate to the personal situations in which they participated but do not include the human historical lineage.

That being said, each person creates their own reality based upon the beliefs they choose to incorporate into their life. They may feel a physical pulling toward the genetic predisposition of their body or the physical tendencies that are built into the genetic base of the family. For instance, a soul may have chosen a particular family because they all suffer from some disease or are prone to addictions that the soul chose to experience.

When working with a client regarding these issues, bear in mind that the specific problem they are facing can be twofold. They may be influenced by one of their past-life events, or it may come from the physical tendencies by which the person has chosen to be affected. In both cases the healing comes in understanding the part the soul chose to play in each.

Only the individual can change the triggering effect a past event can have on their human body. Healing what was caused by an ancestor in the physical line doesn’t affect the soul who was not a participant in it. One caveat to this, though, is that if the person has adopted the belief that they are influenced by their physical ancestors’ problems, they can be. Remember, everyone creates their own reality.