Archive for the ‘Relationships’ Category

How far do the vows go?

Tuesday, January 2nd, 2018

QUESTION: Masters I’ve been married for 26 years, and during the past five+ years my husband has lost much of his hearing, has a knee that needs replacing, has two hernias along with some incontinence. He refuses to fix his body, so there is no longer any intimacy. Plus, I get so frustrated with him not listening or hearing me that I can no longer feel any unconditional love. I feel that I have lived previous lives with him,
but no longer want to ever do this again. I feel like I am always waiting for him to “get it.” What advice do you have for me? I have felt that I will be widowed one day.
~Cathy, USA

ANSWER: Your husband has turned into a self-indulgent, selfish person. He cares only for himself and how much he can get others to do for him. He is extremely unhappy and is dragging you down with him, and he doesn’t care.

Every soul comes to Earth with their own agendas. They have no obligations to take responsibility for others unless they choose to do so. You have been a good and faithful wife and at first were rewarded with a sharing relationship. What you are experiencing now is nothing more than attempting to honor the piece of paper that societally bound you to this man.

What you do from this point forward is up to you. You may maintain this hapless existence or move on. He has no intention of changing his current behavior pattern, so you must decide how you want your life to play out. You are not attached physically to him, but emotionally you cling to the memories of the “good times” you shared. They are gone and will not return.

Everyone creates their own reality by the choices they make. There is no spiritual law that says you have to allow this man to create your reality by the demands he makes and the state in which he chooses to exist. Recognize that, for your own sanity, you have to make changes in your life and the interactions you have with others. At the very least, find something outside the home to occupy your time. And at the extreme, if it still is too overpowering, leave for a while to visit someone. He will see everything that you do for him and may decide to be more proactive in his own life.

You are not stuck in this situation unless you allow yourself to be. You have freedom of choice for anything from minor changes to relocation.

Pet relationships

Tuesday, December 12th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters I recently lost a pet cat that I had the most amazing bond with. He adopted me when he was 4, and was such a loving companion. I am completely heartbroken. Do pets have relationships like this or am I imagining the connection? Where does a pet’s spirit go when they pass? I felt like he chose to be with me and he chose to go when he did. He waited until he could say goodbye to my family over Thanksgiving. Was normal and then crashed over the weekend. Is this possible? ~Karen, USA

ANSWER: Most animals do not have souls but are animated by a spark of energy and unconditional love. This particular cat did have a soul. It is a member of your soul group and you two had agreed to play a part in each other’s lives during this incarnation. At the time the agreement was struck, your friend had not decided what type of life to have – never imagining choosing to try a life as a cat.

The cat filled a void in your life that was deepening at the time he adopted you. He forced you to look at life in a different, more positive way than you were going. He was someone with whom you could share things that you did not feel comfortable sharing with other humans. He become a confidant, best friend, and the only one who always seemed to know what you needed.

This was a very deep relationship because of the soul group connection and the agreement you two had made. Animals that do not have souls can also create very deep relationships when they are empathic to the emotions of their owners. Most other domesticated animals are merely companions and do not develop close associations with their owners. With non-soul-bearing animals, it has a lot to do with how the human sees the pet – is it a mere possession or a companion?

Animals frequently have an instinct about approaching death and can manage to stay around until they feel the time is right to depart. Your cat did want to say goodbye to the family and did not want to interfere with the festivities of the holiday. He decided to just “slip away” unobtrusively while everyone was remembering the good times they had over Thanksgiving with the various members of the family.

Anger controlling my life

Tuesday, November 14th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters, I’m writing you because of anger problems. Lately I’ve been thinking that me and my husband might both be bipolar. You said he was my soulmate, so I do not understand how is it possible that we argue literally every day. I was not like that, sometimes I feel like I’m being possessed from an evil spirit. I want my anger to go away, I want to be the sweet and caring “submissive” wife but unfortunately, I’m not. He irritates me a lot, and so does our baby daughter. Since her birth I no longer feel sexually attracted to him, I love him but I’m no longer in love. I want to change this situation, I’m tired of scream and shout at them. please help me understand what’s going on. ~Miamite, France

ANSWER: Being someone’s soulmate doesn’t guarantee bliss and happiness. It merely refers to the fact that you came into existence at about the same time. A soul frequently will ask a soulmate to be their biggest supporter or hugest antagonist so they may accomplish the lessons they wished, since they know them well enough to know they will be steadfast in the activity.

You are letting a lot of negativity creep into your life. Anger thrives in negative energy and draws even more to itself. When you sense anger or any negative emotion starting to take over your mood, remember the happiest time in your life and banish that bad feeling, replacing it with a loving one.

Your desire to be “submissive” is confusing your conscious mind. You do not like being controlled by anyone or anything, but submission guarantees that will occur. If you really mean that you wish to be a “good” wife by society standards, that means only that you both share in the relationship – sometimes you giving in to your husband and sometimes he doing the same for you.

This is your journey, not one where you play follow the leader. Decide how you want this life to look. Each soul creates their own reality; manifest it the way you desire. You have ultimate freedom of choice if you take it. Behave exactly as is comfortable for you.

Step back from the situation and see that, at the moment, you are overwhelmed with your life. You are so tired that you react instead of understanding an event. Your response of screaming feels good because it is a way to release the tension created by all the input racing toward you. Take some time just for yourself, whether it be a soothing bath, reading a book, or meditating.

Once you return to a more normal self-awareness, you can then determine the status of your “love.” Don’t throw things out in this time of frustration. Talk with your husband about your feelings being buried in negativity and the fact that you need time to find your center to rejuvenate your soul. Bring in as much unconditional love from the universe as you can manage and spread it around to your family.