Archive for June, 2009

The price of guilt

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

QUESTION: Masters, I moved my mother (89 yrs old) out of her nursing home and in with me in a very small apartment a year ago.  I did this because I lost her money. So out of guilt, she is now living with me. It has been very difficult, and as a result, I have become very depressed and feel robbed of my life and freedom.  I am somewhat past the yelling, anger, resentment and have settled for a morose and isolated existence.  I know I am trying to accept my karmic fate, which just brings more self-condemnation and sadness.  By the way, I have tried putting her in a medicaid facility but I just can’t do it. My thinking is that she doesn’t deserve to die alone in one of those places and again, if I hadn’t lost her money she could have stayed in her nicer place.  I definitely can use some advice and guidance.  I am so tired of beating myself up about this self-inflicted situation and all of the “should have’s” that I allow to plague me.   ~Scott, USA

ANSWER: Whoa! Stop right there and look at what you have just said. “I know I am trying to accept my karmic fate”.  Ain’t no such thing Buddy. You are simply taking responsibility for your own actions. There is no one holding a gun to your head and saying “Thou shall do this” – either on that side of the veil or this side.

Your thoughts about what you are responsible for have caused you to take the steps you have taken. It is called guilt in the human world. You have not learned the lesson involved or you would not still be punishing yourself on a daily basis.

Have you really talked to your Mom as to her wishes? She would rather be away from your energy right now, and who wouldn’t? You are not doing her any service by cooping her up in your tiny apartment and making her watch you tear yourself apart. She still loves you regardless what has happened. While there are not finances for her to return to her former nursing home there are alternatives.

Why do you say that she would die all alone in a Medicaid facility? If you find placement for her in such a place is it your intention to abandon her there? They do allow visitation you know. She would have someone there to talk to all the time. She would get her meals on time. Her physical needs would be met. You could visit on a regular basis and bring her little things to make her happy.

Stop beating yourself up. The past is the past. Don’t make both of you suffer while you try to work out your lessons. Remember, this would not have occurred without her consent to the situation. No soul goes through anything on Earth they have not been a part of planning. For some reason, that you are not concerned with, your mother choose to have all these things happen.

Betrayal can rule life

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

QUESTION: Masters, I feel a lesson for me in this life has been betrayal in my primary male relationships.  I have come a long way to resolve this but I’m still plagued at times in not trusting my Husband even though I feel the unconditional love that comes with raising above all these kinds of matters.  I am also wondering if there is a problem with my Mom over being so close to my Dad? Or am I just losing it all together in regards to this life lesson?        ~Sharon, USA

ANSWER: You are correct in your assumption that betrayal is a chosen life lesson. You also choose to question all personal relationships you would have. Knowing your lesson it is easier to work through the energy of that lesson. Your problem is that, while you know the lesson, you have not accepted the energy of it and released the negativity side of the events.

Pursuant to your plan for this life, you set yourself up to be betrayed in relationships so that you might see that the underlying lesson was to have faith in your own abilities and to learn to love yourself in any situation in which you might find yourself. You see the betrayal, but on most levels, say okay I set myself up to be betrayed, let’s move on. Never once have you asked why was I betrayed? What part did my actions play in the betrayal? Why do I feel that I need to experience this? Until you start asking these questions and going into your feelings, life will remain the same cycle of betrayal, fear, and second guessing people.

Even in the relationship between you and your parents you haven’t looked at the way you feel about each. There is a little competition that you feel for your Father’s affection. He and your Mom are not a part of this, it all stems from your lack of self worth and confidence. You feel you must be able to “best” someone, even within your own family.

Start working on getting to the bottom of the dramas in your life and everything will suddenly look and feel different. You do have lessons to learn but you do not need to let them control your life.

Organ transplants

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

QUESTION: Masters, can you answer some questions about organ transplants? Is it right or ethical to embrace the energy of the donor? If the recipient was supposed to die without the transplant, is it right to prolong the life “artificially” or is it acceptable on a spiritual level to accept this gift of life from another soul?   ~Nathalie, UK

ANSWER: Every soul brings to them self that which they wish to experience. If they have chosen to deal with the breakdown of their physical body and then having to deal with all the implications revolving around such a condition, that is how their life will look. If a family loses a loved one in some type of an accident that leaves most of the vital organs intact, one of the issues they have chosen to deal with is whether to allow parts of their loved one to go on living in the body of another.

Nothing is right or wrong. Having the ability to “artificially”, as you say, prolong the time spent in one lifetime, is all part of the initial plan envisioned before coming to Earth. Every aspect of a transplant scenario, on both sides of the transference, has a lesson involved.

A transplant does not just involve the donor and the recipient. It encompasses the transplant team, the families of both, and everyone who knows or comes into contact with the parties. For each individual, it creates different learning experiences ranging from grieve, relief, worthiness, their religious beliefs, accepted ethical implications to their own spiritually planned life.

These are personal lessons for each. They should be embraced, studied for the energies involved, and used to learn more about them self as a divine soul.