Archive for April, 2013

Reacting, not acting

Tuesday, April 30th, 2013

QUESTION: Masters, my mother’s whole life is full of pains- unfaithful husband, jealous siblings and ignorance from her parents. She is eager in searching of the love of others but afraid to get betrayed again. The only comfort in her life is me. I tried to make her understand that her life lessons might be to learn independence, self-love and forgiveness. But the hatred and sadness she holds blocked her from listening to me. She blames her miserable life on others. How can I help her understand? I am afraid if she didn’t learn she has to carry those lessons on to next life and life would be another tough one. Can life lessons only be learned by the person itself? Can I be in any assistance? What’s the relationship between my mum and I? ~Kongkong, China

ANSWER: Life lessons are for the soul alone. No one can take the burden from others or learn the underlying task for them. All you can do is share your knowledge about the soul’s journey with your mother and see if she wants to accept other possibilities than the belief systems she is clutching so dearly to her bosom.

People are only able to receive from others what they will accept. Your mother refuses to accept that she has had a part in any of the negative things that have inhabited her life. She has not looked into the motivations of others and seen why they had the tendency to treat her as they did. She was not a really pleasant person to grow up around and was always finding fault with others.

Your mother created the negativity. She was jealous of some of her siblings’ abilities and families, and that she took to be their jealousy of her life. Her parents were not too concerned about what happened around the house and left the day-to-day interactions to the children. Your mother felt she should be “protected” from the others and afforded a status almost as a princess. No one in the family saw the situation like that. She became very bitter.

She carried her bitterness into her marriage and gave little consolation to her husband, making him seek solace somewhere else. She has never tried to share her life with anyone except you. Her hatred has painted everything she sees with black negativity. She has to find love for herself before she can shed the darkness and find the light.

She can change her whole attitude if she will release her fear and hatred. She can go forward from today, letting go of the past to which she is clinging. Whenever she starts to talk about the bad times, ask her to picture only a happy moment and stop being trapped in the past. Today, she can make positive love energy and slip away from the negativity.

What is faith?

Tuesday, April 30th, 2013

QUESTION: Masters, I have studied many books and scriptures, practiced yoga and meditation and I am very interested in my spiritual growth. Still I find it very hard sometimes to have faith. Part of me knows love is true, but big part of me cannot believe that life can be so great. How can I have more faith? ~Annika, Greece

ANSWER: Faith is a word that means many things to many people. Basically faith is having confidence in the beliefs, teachings, or doctrines of some body of people. It may be religious, societal, medical, etc. It begins for all humans in having faith that what your parents, teachers, and religious tell you is completely true. This establishes your belief systems, which you use to direct and control your daily life.

Religiously, faith is accepting, without even questioning, everything that is said by the hierarchy of the sect. This is where most humans have their first doubts about ”faith” because they just cannot believe some of the stories that form the basis of their doctrines.

In true spirituality there is no faith involved. You are not asked to believe in what someone else accepts as truth, but rather to accept only what resonates or feels right for your life. Love is true; the energy of the universe and the source of all things is unconditional love.

The Earth has a default setting of negativity, which is the opposite of love. It is so because Earth is the only place that has negativity, which allows souls to learn lessons. Each soul has freedom of choice, and that choice revolves around choosing whether to fill your life with positive or negative energy. Choose positive and you have unconditional love energy all around.

Not all lives are filled with tons of negative life lessons. Some souls come down to Earth once in a while to have a pleasant, loving life. You are experiencing one of these lives right now. You may choose to fill it with love only, or allow some negative fear and hatred to intrude—the decision is yours.

Have faith in yourself. Create the world you wish to enjoy. Your life can be as great and wonderful as you alone permit.

Shadows in the darkness

Tuesday, April 30th, 2013

QUESTION: Masters, Could you please help me understand these FLASHBACKS I’ve been having about sexual abuse. I don’t recall the actual acts I remember a few conversations word for word and silly details of my surroundings with intense feelings of fear, confusion and humiliation. I have tried to seek help and failed so now I don’t even know if I believe myself despite facts undoubtedly pointing to abuse. I’m not scared of finding out what happened to me but what does terrify me is finding out what if anything happened to my brother who is 3 yrs younger. I have this awful feeling that something bad was happening to him and I knew and did nothing to stop it. I just wish I could remember more in order to get help for us. The charity I went to for help told me I would have to wait 3 months that was a year ago and still nothing so if they didn’t believe or understand me who will? ~Michelle, Scotland

ANSWER: Your flashbacks are actual memories from your earlier life. It is not that the agency did not believe you but that their schedule was full. You should go back to them if you wish to pursue this. When you did not continue your inquiry they thought you had given up and didn’t want assistance.

In addition to the abuse that occurred, this series of lessons is about taking responsibility. You have a sense that you should have assisted your little brother, but you were not in a position or old enough to do so. You have carried guilt for things you could not possibility have done.

It is time to release the guilt, forgive yourself, and see the fear as the indication of being in an unpleasant situation where you had no control. Your confusion and humiliation were aspects of the events and what the perpetrator threatened you would happen if you did not comply. Accusations were made about your brother being hurt if you were uncooperative.

You learned to partition off those happenings in your life and placed them into the darkness where they couldn’t be seen. Your subconscious knows it is time to clear up these fear lessons and feel better about yourself. Whenever you start to recall some of these situations, ask what you are feeling at that time. Go into the feeling.  Replace the negative, fear-based energy with positive love energy for having understood and accepted the lesson. Let that positive energy fill your whole being with self-love.

Your brother was more of a pawn used against you. Do not involve him in your journey unless he requests that.