Archive for July, 2012

Sabotaging your love life

Tuesday, July 17th, 2012

QUESTION: Masters, I have been trying to live a spiritual path for most of my adult life. Somehow, the only thing I feel is missing in my life is a partner to share and grow. I have avoided relationships with men because I am so afraid of getting hurt. Recently a friend asked me out – he had been interested in me for several years. I was too afraid. I realized I fell in love with him, and am trying to run away. Since we slept together, he does not want anything to do with me. I feel like there is some reason that I am so devastated I finally took a chance and failed. Is it a good idea to move away and start over? The only other man I loved died and I have trouble getting over that too. Is it my lesson to move on after heartbreak? I only feel bad memories in my current location. ~Ellen, USA

ANSWER: You have chosen life lessons of abandonment, self-doubt, self-hatred, and victimization. Because you have not worked on these lessons during your spiritual trek, your life appears to be against you. Your path is to discover your superb essence of unconditional love and then use your powers to know yourself, find love within, and manifest that which you wish to experience.

You feel that a partner will change everything that has gone before in this life and make you feel complete. Nothing is further from the truth. The completeness must begin with accepting yourself and shedding the negativity that surrounds you. The sensations of doubt, fear, and devastation, and the need to run away, are all things you have set up for yourself. Address them and your life will change dramatically.

You can get hurt only if you allow yourself to be hurt. Your own feeling in a situation is what imparts the degree of pain. If you see each situation for what it is, a life experience from which to gather knowledge, it cannot give you pain. If you see it as a personal affront to make you suffer, that is what you will receive.

You are anticipating that any relationship will end disastrously, so that is what happens. You are the one programming the behavior you perceive. During your brief interlude with your old friend, you constantly saw it ending badly even as you were in the beginning stages of accepting the love he offered. Your devastation equaled the amount of effort you put into orchestrating its outcome.

You are worthy of being happy in a physical relationship. You are a beautiful person: see yourself in that way. Reach inside to the unconditional love that is your essence and embrace that feeling for yourself. Don’t run away. Stay and work through the negativity you have been gathering around you and send it packing.

Absent self love

Tuesday, July 17th, 2012

QUESTION: Masters, please tell me why am I unable to find a solution to issues regarding my skin and hair. I know they are not as bad as other people may have experienced. But for me, it is eating away my life. I have invested so much of my money and time on trying to fight these skin issues since my teens. I cannot help but ask why can I not have a good and healthy skin and hair despite all the efforts that I have undertaken? For how many more years should I live in constant anxiety and self-hatred? Please know that I have been suffering from low esteem issues because of my acne and hair. What does the divine want me to know? When will I ever be happy with my appearance? When will this ordeal end? ~V, Singapore

ANSWER: You are accepting that the only important viable aspect of self is the physical appearance. You are a soul having a physical experience, and it is all about acceptance of the energy or essence of which you are composed. All of your efforts have been to create a physical shell, which is a thin layer on the outside, while disregarding the beautiful unconditional love within.

You have identified the cause of your dilemma: it is your self-hatred. When you spend a lot of energy hating what you are, the message you send out to the universe is that you are not worthy of being regarded as physically beautiful, so your body complies. You are summoning negativity to you and it is preventing the physical from healing as you desire.

All your life lessons are playing out on your head, face, and hair. You have taken the imperfections you detect there and brought them inside to fester and create the hatred that consumes you. Take a deep breath and see if you can feel any love for yourself at all. If you cannot, that is your starting point.

Start with things in your life that don’t have anything to do with appearance. You are very intelligent and a good worker. Are those characteristics influenced by your face? No. You can be very caring and helpful to others in their need. Is that assistance diminished by your appearance? No. You are the only one who constantly places appearance ahead of interaction with others.

You need to learn to just be yourself—not the ogre you have buried in your head as a portrayal of yourself, but the loving person inside who comes out on the rare occasions when you are not consumed with your appearance. Start seeing that person as a soul, a piece of the Source, who is all magnificent, all powerful, and able to create what it chooses to experience by using its energetic loving self, not tons of chemicals dumped upon its outer covering. Skin and hair are nothing more than a suit of clothing used to cover the energy within.

Slipping between dimensions

Tuesday, July 17th, 2012

QUESTION: Masters, I´ve had a few experiences I am hoping you could help me enlighten. While resting the other day, I was fully conscious but unable to move entirely. It felt like a deeper meditation/trance state, than I have been before. There was a strong light and a rush of intense energy, lasting for about five seconds going through my body. It happened about 4-5 times. There was also a lot of noise, buzzing, and I could hear people talking. After this experience I have been hearing sounds in my daily life, about a week at a time. They remind me of my brain sounds, high and low pitch frequencies that changes all the time and are always there. But these sounds are deeper and do not come from my head. What was that strong rush going through my body? And what are these sounds in my head, and the ones I am hearing? ~Maria, Norway

ANSWER:  The human body is the temporary housing of your magnificent soul. The body needs to have rest and regeneration, but the soul is eternally energetic. When the body goes into periods of rest, the soul does not stick around inside—it goes visiting. It maintains a connection with its current body at all times. The body’s awareness is what the human mind perceives at the moment.

When a soul fully re-enters its body, there can be a period when the conscious awakens before sufficient soul energy has come back to allow the body to be reanimated. During this transition, the conscious awareness may be in between the physical realm of the third dimension where it is living a life and another dimension where the soul had been spending time while the body slept or meditated.

Occasionally, there is not a complete closing of the dimensions when the conscious mind becomes aware of “another place.” When that happens, the ability to hear other souls in that place remains even after a complete reintegration of body and soul. You are bridging the gap between the physical dimension of your body and the places your soul visits.

You have complete control over your participation. If you feel uncomfortable in this dual existence, send the message to the universe to shut it down. If you wish to understand and participate more fully, ask for the assistance of your guides. When you go into a rest phase, do so with your intentions for remembering and participation very clearly in your head. Make your decisions and then enjoy adventure or quiet.