Absent self love
QUESTION: Masters, please tell me why am I unable to find a solution to issues regarding my skin and hair. I know they are not as bad as other people may have experienced. But for me, it is eating away my life. I have invested so much of my money and time on trying to fight these skin issues since my teens. I cannot help but ask why can I not have a good and healthy skin and hair despite all the efforts that I have undertaken? For how many more years should I live in constant anxiety and self-hatred? Please know that I have been suffering from low esteem issues because of my acne and hair. What does the divine want me to know? When will I ever be happy with my appearance? When will this ordeal end? ~V, Singapore
ANSWER: You are accepting that the only important viable aspect of self is the physical appearance. You are a soul having a physical experience, and it is all about acceptance of the energy or essence of which you are composed. All of your efforts have been to create a physical shell, which is a thin layer on the outside, while disregarding the beautiful unconditional love within.
You have identified the cause of your dilemma: it is your self-hatred. When you spend a lot of energy hating what you are, the message you send out to the universe is that you are not worthy of being regarded as physically beautiful, so your body complies. You are summoning negativity to you and it is preventing the physical from healing as you desire.
All your life lessons are playing out on your head, face, and hair. You have taken the imperfections you detect there and brought them inside to fester and create the hatred that consumes you. Take a deep breath and see if you can feel any love for yourself at all. If you cannot, that is your starting point.
Start with things in your life that don’t have anything to do with appearance. You are very intelligent and a good worker. Are those characteristics influenced by your face? No. You can be very caring and helpful to others in their need. Is that assistance diminished by your appearance? No. You are the only one who constantly places appearance ahead of interaction with others.
You need to learn to just be yourself—not the ogre you have buried in your head as a portrayal of yourself, but the loving person inside who comes out on the rare occasions when you are not consumed with your appearance. Start seeing that person as a soul, a piece of the Source, who is all magnificent, all powerful, and able to create what it chooses to experience by using its energetic loving self, not tons of chemicals dumped upon its outer covering. Skin and hair are nothing more than a suit of clothing used to cover the energy within.