Changing your image
Friday, August 22nd, 2008
Q: Masters, I nearly always end up in dead-end relationships—always putting other people’s feelings before my own. Most of my love relationships involve men with issues. I help get them through their problems and then they leave and go off with their lives somewhere else. I keep ending up alone. Have I taken the wrong path in my life? I sense I am not doing what I came to Earth to do. I am feeling confused and lost. Your advice would be greatly appreciated.
A: Your choice of life lessons has left you on an emotional merry-go-round. You are an extremely strong person when it comes to traumatic situations, but when the pressure goes away you are left with more to give and no one around who needs your assistance. You stand in the middle of the stadium after everyone has left and the lights are turned out. That is why you feel lost, alone, and confused. One minute you are the pivotal player in the action and the next you are superfluous.
This is what you chose to experience. That said, you have done so and now may change and move on to other experiences. To do that you have to evaluate where you are and decide where you want to be. So far your life has been in service to others. Why not choose to live for yourself?
No longer start your day asking what you can do for others. In every situation that presents to you, ask if this is something that you really want to do. Learn that there is nothing wrong with being vulnerable and needing the help of others. Stop blocking out your own needs and desires while only seeing the lacks of others.
Redefine yourself. Honor yourself. Know that it can be your turn to be the recipient. Put energy out into the universe that you wish to have a relationship with a man who is whole and ready to share life with you. Ask for what you desire.
