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Possessive boyfriend

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Q. Masters, I have this boyfriend who is extremely good to me, taking care of my every need. He has become very possessive and wants to know what I am doing every minute of the day. In the beginning I felt that his attention was very endearing, but now I find it repressive. He has been so good to me that I do not want to hurt his feelings by criticizing the way that he treats me. What should I do?

A. You chose the experiences that you wished to have when you incarnated on Earth. You also chose the lessons that you wished to learn. You have chosen to experience what being controlled feels like, as well as the various aspects of self identity and self worth.

During the early years of your life you were not singled out by anyone as special or subject to familial love. When your boyfriend became so attentive to you it filled a void that had existed. You began to experience the interaction that can exist between two physical humans and it felt good, but yours came with a price. Your boyfriend wanted to own and control you. Even the sense of belonging that came with possession felt right at first.

What has happened recently is another aspect of your growth. You now have a sense of yourself. You have realized that each soul is entitled to its own path. It can be possessed by another only with its consent, freely given. Knowing that, you no longer want to consent to being controlled.

While it is not right or wrong to remain in this relationship, you have learned all that you can from it. You owe your boyfriend nothing more than thanks for the experience he has allowed you to feel. Your future is in your hands. Decide if you still need to be controlled or if you have enough faith in yourself to move on to new experiences. The choice is yours.