Archive for August 1st, 2017

Trying to create reality for another

Tuesday, August 1st, 2017

QUESTION: Masters two years ago the man I thought I was to spend my life with died. I continued to believe in love and met a new man, being with him for six months. He broke up with me and my heart is shattered. I thought he was the one, my chance at love again. But he doesn’t feel the same intensity I feel for him. I thought he was the one I would spend my life with, I’m not sure how to believe in love anymore. I feel emotionally drained. ~Adela, UK

ANSWER: Every soul creates their own reality, but it goes only as far as the area over which they have control. When you created your expectations about love between you and another, that shaped all your thoughts and actions but had no effect upon your intended. Every soul has total freedom of choice concerning every aspect of their life. If they choose to spend time with someone, it is their choice and it will not be dictated because the other demands it.

A truly happy relationship exists only when both parties agree to share their innermost thoughts and emotions with each other. Communication is the binding force that creates a firm union. You have always made the decisions for both of you, assuming that since you want something, they must desire it as well. You have never discussed your mutual impressions of the day-to-day necessities of a lasting relationship.

As you have started an association, you have just assumed the man will know what you want even though you do not tell him what that is. This creates an immediate tension in the relationship and makes the man believe he is not an equal part of the pair. The intensity of your conclusions concerning where the two of you are in the relationship scares the daylights out of your partner. If, from the beginning, you discussed that you are looking for a “forever union,” things would not come as such a shock to him.

You are unaware of what a romantic love really is. You have a movie rendition of happily ever after, but not a human one where partners share the bad with the good. Ask yourself if you really love who you are.  Do you think it is proper to pick out a man and then decide, without his input, that he is to be your husband? Tone down your expectations and work on establishing a sharing-style love relationship with a man who desires the same. Only by talking it out can you see if you are both seeking the same direction.

Finding myself

Tuesday, August 1st, 2017

QUESTION: Masters for years I’ve felt stuck and unhappy in life and unable to figure out how to move forward with even simple things like what type of job to seek. I’ve lost faith in myself, even while trying to be more positive. My upbringing made me fear God so I have trouble asking for spiritual help. My childhood had emotional neglect/abuse that damaged my sense of deserving to get my needs/ wants met. Can you suggest some ways I can connect with source to help me find a gratifying life rather than just resentfully serving my family while out of touch with my own needs/wants/gifts? I want satisfying work using my gifts, to learn to deal with others with confidence and collaboration, not fear. I feel I cannot live this way anymore, cut off from myself and my soul. It’s like I missed the boat for my true
purpose. ~Christina, USA

ANSWER: With all your lessons concerning self-worth, self-confidence, self-love, and trust still very active, to radically change, you will have to start from the beginning. The first step is accepting that you are a piece of the Source energy that is responsible for everything that exists anywhere and everywhere. With that acceptance comes the ability to image the qualities you have at your disposal for creating the life you desire.

Right now, you are inhibited by the belief systems that were bestowed on you by your parents and society. As a child, you accepted these without question and never even imagined that you had the ability to override them and change what they made you believe. These are the automatic responses you encounter in any situation that presents itself to you.

To begin to defuse these, and write your own rules for living, you have to start questioning the way you respond to any stimulus. You need to ask: Does this feel right to me? Is this what I really want to do? If the answer to these questions is a resounding no, then it is time to choose for yourself the actions you take. You are then beginning to rewrite the beliefs controlling your life. Do something because you feel it is the correct thing, or what you want to do, rather than what others have told you to do.

Each soul who has come to Earth to have a human experience does so by itself and has no obligations to anyone else. You owe your family nothing in a spiritual sense. But you owe yourself respect, honor, and love for enduring all these lessons in this situation and working within it.

In meditation, ask your guides to make contact with you so that they might hold your hand as you go through your transformation. The “God” you were threatened with in your youth is a creation of organized religion and does not exist. Source, Creator, Divine Spark – whatever you wish to call the originator of all things – is nothing but unconditional love.

Begin to see the magnificence that is your essence. Feel the love emanating from the universe down to you to assist you with your struggles. Know that you can become an independent person, manifesting what you need.

Learning from chosen lessons

Tuesday, August 1st, 2017

QUESTION: Masters I was born with a sensitive nature. I have strived to be gentle and kind to all I have met over nearly 60 years. Yet I have rarely experienced happiness despite learning from wise books and the bible. I am plagued with worries often caused by bad people. I am strained looking after my elderly mother and often feel suicidal. Why is this my life? Law of attraction is not helping me so how do I endure this misery? ~Patrick, UK

ANSWER: What is plaguing you is the result of negative energies that surround you. Being gentle and kind has been seen by many as being an easy mark or pushover to be taken advantage of. These negativity-loving people find it fun to antagonize you.

You have no true sense of who you are. To find happiness you first have to bring self-love into your life. What other people think or say about you is not important; the important thing is what you think about yourself – this is a form of self-love. Worries, doubts, and fears are all indications that one of your life lessons is present. To combat their interference in your life, look them right in the face and see why they are there.

You create your own reality through your choices. Stop letting the thoughts in your head take precedence. They are other people’s opinions that you have heard, that you read, and that you accepted without asking how they made you feel. From this day forward, never do something just because it has a place in your memory. Do something only if it feels good and resonates with you.

You chose the lessons you are enduring to see if you could understand them and find a loving way to deal with them. Don’t let others dictate to you. Look upon your mother’s care as a blessing in love that you may share with her – but don’t let her force you to do anything you don’t wish.

Every situation is a choice as to how you perceive it. Is it something that enriches your life? Can you feel the love in a meeting? Pick the positive explanations for everything and send the negativity packing.