Archive for February, 2011

Learn to honor yourself

Tuesday, February 22nd, 2011

Question: Masters, my husband works abroad and has another woman there. Should I try to keep our family together or let go of him and find my own way without him? Is it meant for me to learn to accept my loneliness and give up a relationship that isn’t alive anymore? ~Isela, Estonia

ANSWER: What do you think about your husband’s regard for you? Do you think he honors and respects you? And what do you feel about him? Does he deserve your continued loyalty and respect? You are in the midst of stepping outside of your sheltered little house and seeing the world as it truly exists.

In the beginning you ignored the signs that showed your husband was being unfaithful to your marriage. You did not want to admit that he was choosing someone over you. It made you question your worth. You are a fantastic, magnificent person—you just have to see and accept that fact.

He is a very weak person and has to have someone to take care of him on whom he can depend to be there, or he cannot function. His woman in that other country is his stability. He sees women as possessions and servants to service his needs. He does not really know how to love another human being.

This part of your life is a lesson to see if you can honor your inner essence and do what is necessary to feel respected and loved. You may continue as things are, but it is preventing you from finding a caring, sharing man with whom you may go through the rest of your life. Love yourself enough to “feel” what you need to do to honor and plan for the next part of your life.

You are filled with unconditional love inside. Let it come out so you may feel fantastic about yourself and your decisions. Cutting loose from what is a marriage in name only will allow you to get out of the loneliness that has been there because you are holding open a hollow existence, and it will free you to move out into the light, and the companionship of others.

When the body sleeps

Tuesday, February 22nd, 2011

QUESTION: Masters, when I was younger I became able to sense I was dreaming and affect the events of the dream, wish myself awake and fly. One day, I had a dream I never forgot. I was alone in a childhood friend’s house and kids were trying to break in. I escaped to the backyard. The kids broke through as a gorilla peered over the fence and joined in. I jumped on the fence and took flight, peering down at the house alone in a grassy plain. I then wondered how high I could go and struggled to go higher. Feeling I was going above the clouds a hand grabbed me and pulled me violently backwards; I awoke in my bed. I have never been able to control my dreams or fly ever again. Was there any message or meaning? ~Christian, Canada

ANSWER: As the physical covering of your soul (your body) goes through its restorative period (sleep), your conscious soul, of which you are normally unaware, takes over your thought processes. Most people having any remembrance of this time period call the snippets of information “dreams.”

Your soul engages in a number of different things during this period. It sometimes goes back and relives experiences it had previously, test-drives ideas it has for new experiences, insinuates itself into someone else’s life or dream sequences, confers with its advisors, or entertains itself in some other manner. A number of spiritual groups refer to this as “going to night school.” Depending on the intensity of the involvement, you may even wake up tired afterwards instead of rested.

Frequently what will pop up during this time are activities that played through your head prior to sleep. This can be the result of a movie, a novel, or anything else to which you gave a lot of thought. Abilities you possess as a soul, which are a part of your being but which you cannot perform with a physical body, such as flying, figure prominently in dreams—particularly in children because the abilities have so recently become impossible.

Your conscious mind, when it becomes aware of these memories of things in which you can no longer participate because of your physicality, makes attempts to prevent a continuance of these behaviors. One of the results is that you snap back into the physical body with a jolt. If the conscious mind becomes awake during a session, it will try to prevent the continuation of something it knows you cannot do. This will result in a physical sensation of restraint.

As you relax into accepting your true identity as a soul, you can tell your unconscious that you wish to dream about your ability to complete some act. This gives you permission to spend time exploring whatever you wish. Happy travels.

Time to really evaluate

Tuesday, February 22nd, 2011

QUESTION: Masters, I wish to know what I am here to learn in this life. I feel fortunate to have come across spirituality after my break-up. I am still learning lots and want to know how my ex now feels, and people I had some major conflicts with before, such as my friend/landlord in the UK, the housemate who annoyed me majorly in the house that I left last year because someone had nearly died outside. The friends I am associating with now, and a close friend “K” who helps me out a lot: are they all of significance in my past lives? Lastly, how am I related to a person I feel close to but haven’t yet met? We share quite similar interests and background. Will I find true love in this life? I am working on loving myself more and letting the ego go as much as I can. ~Kerry, UK

ANSWER: A primary message or lesson of spirituality is to learn to live in the moment, or at least the now. Another important concept is that the only people souls are responsible for on their life’s journey are themselves. To spend time and energy on the questions you have presented is to say you are more concerned with how you are viewed by others than how you view yourself. This is all an aspect of judgment, which is the keystone of the ego.

You are here to learn who you are as a soul going through an Earthly experience: to be able to bring abilities you have garnered in past lives into this one and to get as close as possible to existing in the unconditional love that is your state at Home.

Your next step should be to evaluate your current position along the path. How do you feel about yourself? What fears do you have? What don’t you love about yourself? Each one of your fears is an incomplete life lesson still emotionally affecting you. Ask of each fear, why are you here? How do you make me feel? Go into the feeling and you will find the lesson. Understand the lesson and you won’t have to do it again.