Archive for November, 2012

Dealing with the world

Tuesday, November 27th, 2012

QUESTION: Masters, two people have moved into two different flats next door to me and like to play very loud music. This has disturbed what had been a peaceful sanctuary. I feel fear around this so know it must be a life lesson. I avoid confrontation but summoned up courage and asked them politely to be more considerate and turn it down—with little overall effect. What I am learning here? I know from a previous questioner that you cannot control people. I am trying to be more tolerant and also compassionate towards these people. I know nothing lasts forever so is it also about learning patience? My sister has breast cancer, so for me this should really be nothing, but I am finding it difficult to adjust and not react or judge. Is there past-life healing to be done? ~ Rex, England

ANSWER:  You are correct that these people are involved in a lesson with you. The only one you have to have concern for, though, is yourself. This has nothing to do with past-life issues; it is about how you see yourself in this life. You have been working very hard to balance your world, rid it of judgment, and not interact with others.

This lesson is partially about learning to deal with others in a positive, non-confrontational manner. Talking with others about something that bothers you, as long as you do so in a quiet, non-threatening manner, is not confrontational. This is about standing up for yourself because you know and accept you are as good and deserving as every other soul on the planet. This is having the courage to honor your own journey through this existence. It is refusing to be abused by those who don’t know or care what effect they are having on others.

A second aspect is learning to ignore what you don’t want to bother you. If you hate the sound of rain on a roof, no matter how insignificant the precipitation, you will be disturbed by its noise. If you allow yourself to get absorbed in a project such as work, a craft, or a book, you can block out even a thunder storm.

You don’t have to show tolerance or compassion for these noisy people. That is the same as saying that you are wrong, and you are not. It is choosing your battles and how you expend your energy to deal with life’s situations. You are doing great helping your sister through her problems; use some of that knowledge to get yourself through this inconvenience.

Delivering messages

Tuesday, November 27th, 2012

QUESTION: Masters, I think that bygone heavenly souls have tried to contact me. I also have given permission (after first time) for them to contact me (if they are from the light) and I´m willing to transmit their message to their loved ones. Is this only my imagination or did three souls (KL, ML and my friend’s mother) give a message to me to be transmitted (KL did not gave a message but I think that I somehow did “feel” him)? How do I know what is for real and what is not? ~Sari, Finland

ANSWER: Souls from the Other Side, where departed humans reside, like to contact those who remain behind. Once you have given them permission, it enhances their ability to be heard. It is wise that you specified only beings of the Light; otherwise you would have left yourself open to be bothered by any unhappy discarnate soul who has not gone back to the Light.

The abilities that each soul has vary from those of others. Some can concentrate energy so readily that they can easily deliver messages to you, which can be interpreted as regular conversation. Others are able to let you “feel” things, can produce sounds, or can have written messages appear by way of papers, magazines, or advertisements.

There is a learning curve—in other words, most of the time things are not apparent or understandable all at once. It takes a while to realize what is being conveyed. The best way to know for sure that you are “hearing” from the other side is the way the sensations affect your body. Do they resonate with you or feel good to you? Is the message delivered in a way that reminds you of the departed and the way he or she behaved when in physical form?

You have indeed been contacted. It is not your responsibility to vouch for the integrity of the message but only to be the messenger who passes on the information. The souls exist in a different dimension so their way of seeing things is quite different from yours. The messages you receive for transmission may not make any sense to you but they may to the intended recipient. Do not try to interpret a message so it makes sense to you, unless it is intended for you. Just pass on the message and let it be.

The house help and punching bag

Tuesday, November 27th, 2012

QUESTION: Masters, I am unable to stay happy. My husband and I have been married for 14 yrs. We live under the same roof but there is absolutely nothing husband-wife between us. He is big time into spirituality and healing and does energy healing to people. By education he is a doctor. All he does is criticize, condemn and complain. His “only” problem is me. We have two girls he dotes on. We cannot get divorced. How can I find peace here and move on? How can I not let this affect my day to day life? He has a horrible temper and uses me as a vent. ~Anita, US

ANSWER: Your definition of your husband’s behavior does not support his and your thinking that he is into spirituality big time. Truly spiritual persons let go of their ego and never judge what occurs around them. Your husband is an egotistical, selfish person. He likes to be in control and have others do his bidding. You do not fall all over him, as his clients do; you also do not pay him, so he doesn’t care what he says to you or what you think.

Because he does have the ability to channel healing energy, he is treated by some as a god when he helps to facilitate their healing. He is convinced that he is the source of the healing, but nothing is further from the truth. He is not responsible for the change in his patients. All healing is a combination of the energy that he channels through from the universal Source and the intention of the recipient. If the receivers do not completely believe they will be healthy or brought back into balance, they will not be—regardless of what your husband does or intends.

You are his only problem because you will not let him control every aspect of your life. He dotes on his daughters because they love him without question, at least at this point in their lives.

Why do you feel you cannot get divorced? You have the freedom to choose your path. You will only be able to find peace when you take charge of your own life, when you honor the person you are. You alone can choose to stay or go. Either choice is correct for you if you are making the decision.

If you stay, you must stop accepting the psychological abuse he is heaping on you. Stop feeling guilty when he tells you it is all your fault. It is only a reflection he is seeing of his own imperfection, which he is trying to deny and for which he is trying to blame you. Consider the source of his tirade; say to yourself that you are a beautiful, fantastic person, and he is missing out by being so blind. Ignore his temper by imagining he is in a cage of his own creation and is venting to try to get out of it. Send his soul love so it may see the lesson in which it is floundering.