Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, I seek understanding and clarity in regard to my son and his wife. He is 46, and we have not spoken for over two years. I finally, after about 12 years of agony, confronted him about the pain I have experienced for many years due to his wife’s rejection and his descent into a mean personality change. He was continually criticizing me, and passing on to me cruel things his wife says about me. He says he does not care about my feelings, and that I should talk with his wife about it, but she ignores and rejects me. She has rejected all members of our family, and her family also. They both drink daily. I suffer with guilt and confusion about what to do, how I might help all of us. ~Marg Ann, USA

ANSWER: It is impossible to help someone if they don’t want to be helped or don’t think they need any help.  Your son and his wife are confident they don’t need anyone—neither your family nor her family. It started out with people commenting on their drinking and lifestyle and then later about their attitude. They chose to behave the way they do and don’t think anyone should comment upon their personal choices.

Once people assume responsibility for themselves, they do not like to have others attempt to make their decisions for them by telling them what to do or what they are doing wrong. This couple is leading the life in which they feel most comfortable. There is no law that states that just because you are related to a person by birth or marriage, they have an obligation to have any contact with you. Everything in life is governed by the individual’s freedom of choice.

Why do you feel guilty? Did you do anything to cause this rift? You are incapable of directing the thoughts and actions of others unless they consent. No matter how bad you feel about a situation, you are powerless—it is their path. Nothing you have done has caused their separatist actions. Stop trying to create a relationship where one does not exist.

You contribute to your own hurt feelings by accepting their insensitivity and nasty comments. If you just consider the source and let the comments roll off your back they will not sting. You have been letting the actions dig under your skin and fester. Look at the events that occur as a horrid drama portrayed by strangers intent on hurting each other, and make the decision not to take part. Help yourself by staying out of their chosen negativity.

QUESTION: Masters, I’m consciously trying to create a balance between all of my being. Body—regular physical exercise, Mind—read and assimilate as much as I can, Spirit—connecting to Spirit resulting in inspirational philosophy. The only area out of balance is my working life. My continued efforts at getting a job have been so far fruitless. I would be very thankful for you to share your wisdom with me on this area of my life.                ~Sarah-Elizabeth, UK

ANSWER: When people are in total balance, there is an integration of the learning and they start living the lessons they have studied. From what you say about your daily regime, you are only concerned about getting the knowledge and not developing it into a way of life. A spiritually balanced life blends well with all the other people on the planet and assists one in going with the flow of the universe.

If you are truly balanced, what you need to experience will be drawn to you—including the way to make a living so you may proceed with your life’s studies. You are a very powerful soul who has the ability to manifest that which you need. When you don’t have a sense of yourself in relationship to the rest of the physical world, you spin out of control and don’t make any contact with others.

Your purpose in this lifetime is to get to know your inner essence—the energy contained in your soul. That is an individual pursuit. You obtain your cues to the lessons you have not completed by the indications you receive from those with whom you interact. Your working life is a major place to obtain this valuable information.

One personal life lesson includes procuring employment. The ease of securing a job is related to your self-image. When you apply for a position, your résumé and your interview transmit your energy. How confident are you? How well do you think you will perform in the workplace? Hesitancy and lack of confidence tell the prospective employer, “I don’t think I am ready for this position.”

QUESTION: Masters, I feel so drawn towards a friend. It has been a sudden change of feelings. After so many years, I have fallen for a friend and my intuition says that my friend could be feeling the same about me. I just want to know why do I feel so strongly about my friend and is it possible for us to pursue a romantic relationship? Is it obsession or a case of misunderstanding the other’s motive? Should I express my desire or should I wait for my friend or should I simply move on? Please guide me. ~Vaishnavee, Singapore

ANSWER: Stop dreaming. You are lonely and feel you need to have a partner and your friend looks like a candidate. Your friend is just that—a friend. All your “feelings” in this case are wishful thinking. Romance is the default situation with all souls in physical bodies. You feel cheated that you are not in a relationship. You are envisioning yourself with all the possibilities including this friend whom you know so well and with whom you feel comfortable. That makes dreaming seem safe with a lower chance of rejection.

Unless feelings are expressed, it is impossible for either of you to understand what the unstated sensations between you mean. Things are not in any position for you and your friend to enter a romantic relationship. Once you thought there might be some feelings coming from that direction, your intense longing for a partner turned your interest into an obsession.

If you feel you need a relationship so desperately, send out a clear message to the universe with a description of the ideal companion. You will be able to manifest an appearance in your life by your clear signals. You doubt your own abilities to bring someone special into your life. You are a magnificent, all-powerful soul; start having your desires read and responded to by being very clear in your intentions.