Masters of the Spirit World

Q. Masters, the more I read Spiritual books the more I hear about comfort zones and how they hinder growth and awareness. I had occasion to read a psychology book the other day and they recommended finding your comfort zone. I am very confused. Which is right?

A. Dear Confounded, depending on your soul’s projected journey this lifetime, either option might be right for you. A comfort zone is where you live life in a way that nothing comes as a surprise to you. You are in control of your experiences, and there are no chances being taken because you know what is coming next. You are very comfortable. It is also a very restrictive box within which you are unable to move forward. As long as you remain there, you can not learn any more about yourself than is within your awareness (the inside of your box).

In order to learn lessons you must be exposed to situations you have not faced before in this existence. When you have new experiences, you gain additional awareness of who you are. New circumstances do not pop up in your safe comfort zone box. You must open yourself to the unknown and go outside your comfort zone. You must trust in the universe that you will not be presented with more than you can handle at any one time.

The psychologist tells anyone who is overwhelmed in their environment to find a comfort zone and stay there. You can learn everything about yourself that has come to you so far in this life without facing any additional puzzles to work through simultaneously. This is a place for a soul to integrate what it has experienced before moving into new frontiers. Within a lifetime your path may have rest stops or comfort zones along the way for you to get ready for the next big step.

See what feels best for you. Are you stuck in a comfort zone and feel hemmed in? If you are, it is time to venture out if you want to grow by gathering more information about yourself. If you still need to learn where your fears originate, stay in that comfort zone and work on uncovering your own secrets.

Q. Masters, no matter how hard I try to feel good, I always seem to drop into a depression or bout of self loathing. What am I doing wrong?

A. Dear Confused One, your first problem is in your thinking. When you say to us, “no matter how hard I try” you are saying to yourself “I don’t think I can.” When you try to do something that you are not sure is possible, you end up trying, and trying, and trying, until you finally give up. You must change your thinking.

Do you believe that you can feel good? That is the first step necessary to see what it is like to feel good, and ultimately to move into feeling good at will. Once you believe, you must then change your thinking to knowing that you can feel good any time you desire. When you know you can feel good, whenever that sense of depression or self loathing arises, go from thinking to acting. Already knowing it is possible to feel good, concentrate on that feeling and then start feeling good. You will reach a point where you feel good all the time because you do not want to feel any other way.

Q. Masters, the television series called Ghost Whisperer shows an interaction between physical and non-physical souls, with the deceased energies causing all kinds of problems and even harm to the physical ones. Is this what really happens?

A. Dear television watcher, the portrayals that are enacted on Ghost Whisperer are dramatized to draw an audience. Some transitional spirits, those that have left their physical body but have not let loose completely of the contact with their earthly life, do try to interact with living people. In most cases the souls do not fully accept that they have left their physical body and wish to stay on Earth—we call these souls discarnates. Most died with some very strong emotion firing within them. They may have been outraged at the reason for their death or the person responsible for it. They may feel they have information that will allow those they left behind to deal better with their passing. Revenge, greed, hatred, control issues are all very powerful emotions that may keep a soul from letting go after their life is terminated.

When the soul passes out of the physical body it enters an energetic form. Within this framework it is very difficult for it to directly interact with someone in physical form. It may, however, be very easy for them to affect the energy surrounding a living person to let them know they are still around and even what it is that they want. If the deceased is working with a very strong emotion, it may give their energy sufficient strength to be felt by another. Someone who had contact with the departed before transition also may be more susceptible to feeling the energy because they are familiar with the entity’s human energy pattern. Someone who is very sensitive to energy also may be more affected, which makes it seem as if the deceased is physically reaching out from the grave and grabbing the living. Harm may come only if the receiver is open to accepting all aspects of the energy from the discarnate. Instead, the living person may choose only to hear the thoughts and may block the strong, harmful emotions attached.

A televised presentation that is more of the average kind of interchange between physical and non-physical beings can be seen in Medium, which is still somewhat dramatized. Common interaction can be seen in James Van Praagh’s  Beyond and John Edward’s Crossing Over. Both of these shows deal with souls that have transitioned, but in most cases have gone all the way Home, and just come back to check on the living. Very few of the hundreds of readings that are provided through these shows deal with discarnates because most souls when they have completed their time on Earth cannot wait to get back Home into unconditional love. They are aware of the fact that they are not precluded from making contact with their loved ones either directly or through sensitives.

Your loved ones do wish to maintain contact and to reassure you that they are happy and content at Home. Frequently they will use their energy to give you clues, such as sounds, smells, or even a disturbance of the air around you that feels just like a caress.  You are encouraged to speak to them just as you did when you could physically see them— they will hear you and they still love you.