Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, I don’t feel I love my mother and I don’t want to help her with her financial issues sacrificing myself since she has her own money and she has my brother and sister that she has done anything for them in any situation. She is always helping them and in many situations, I have to deal myself with my own problems because she never cared too much with them. Am I wrong or selfish to think like that? ~Luciana, Brazil

ANSWER: In the spiritual sense, nothing is considered wrong – or, for that matter, right. Everything that occurs happens for the lessons that can be gained. Your Earth family is just that, some souls that enabled you to be born into a human body. As souls, they are not related to you in any other sense. You may have contact with them during this single lifetime and none other.

You chose to be in this situation so that you could explore your feelings about societally imposed responsibilities, honoring yourself as a soul choosing a physical experience and dealing with various attributes such as guilt, selfishness, and issues of control.

Your mother is a manipulative, negativity-loving person. Up until this time you have tended to give in to her demands, and she is using you. Your brother and sister have not been so easy to control, which she respects and rewards by giving them what they ask for.

For almost the first time, you are questioning the entire relationship within your family and starting to see that what is demanded of you is not of any benefit to your learning process. Society tells humans that they should take care of their elders – but that is mostly so that the society does not have to be responsible. They say you are selfish and unloving if you don’t do as asked. That is a ridiculous conclusion that serves them but not you.

As you are aware, your mother does not really need your assistance. She wants it just to prove you are under her control. You have freedom of choice. You do not have to do as she requests, and there is no need to love the negative human she is portraying.

What is of greater significance in this situation is loving yourself and honoring the spiritual journey you are on. You are here to discover that you are a piece of Source energy, with all the powers and abilities that implies. Self-love comes from the acceptance and realization that the lessons you are dealing with will allow you to make the choices from which to grow in understanding and wisdom.

There is nothing wrong with ignoring her and even separating yourself from the rest of the family, as well.

QUESTION: Masters, my professional life is very important to me, but I have a boyfriend and he is going to move to another city. We don’t want to break up, but relationship in distance is very difficult to keep. So, he asks me if I want to go with him, to live together. I don’t know if going with him is right because if I go, it would be a big change in my life and plans for my life… But I love him so much, I don’t know what to do. But my heart says that follow him isn’t the better choice, that I have to follow my own plans… Please give me a way. My heart hurts when I think about it because if I don’t choose to follow him it will seem that I don’t want to be with him, and it isn’t true, I love him so much. ~Bianca, Brasil

ANSWER: A soul comes to Earth to learn lessons. They involve examining all the situations that you have chosen to attract to yourself and, then, using your freedom of choice, deciding which will allow you to learn the most in the shortest amount of time. A soul does not come into the plane with any other souls – but by itself. The spiritual journey is a singular thing, with the only way to learn being by making all the decisions and accepting all the responsibilities for what happens while here.

There are many aspects to a human life. There are things that can be experienced only within the human body – sexual functions being one of them. There is no time limit on any of the tests you have set up for yourself, nor only one way in which to accomplish them.

Somewhere in your planning for this life, you envisioned the exact situation in which you find yourself today. What is of greatest importance to you? Is it the completion of the passions you feel drawing you, the professional life you have spent so much time creating? Or is physical sensation of utmost importance at this very moment in your life? Only you can answer these questions.

It also matters whether you find spiritual growth and enlightenment necessary for you now, or feel that that can come later, if at all. You are not aware of what difficulties might face you in another location and whether you will find a position that satisfies you. Moving will satisfy your boyfriend’s needs in all respects but provide only for your relationship aspects. The choice is yours.

QUESTION: Masters I got married at very young age. I never felt deep love for my husband because I was in love with someone before marriage. My hubby knew it before marriage but said he will make me forget all my pains. After marriage I realized that he was a big bully, short tempered and used to hit me all the time. Many times I decided to leave him but couldn’t because of kids. I started living my fantasy life by day dreaming of having other men in my life. that kept me alive. I did fell in love with someone, but nothing worked out. I am still with my husband. He has changed a lot but from time to time his bully nature comes back and I feel that I am back to square one. Will this situation ever end, will he change for good? ~Nana, Canada

ANSWER: Your husband worked to make you forget your deep love by replacing it with a fear of himself and his actions. You were very naïve and vulnerable at that young age. You let him convince you of what you truly wanted. Your desire to have a family blinded you to the situation and you accepted that he knew what was good for you better than you did. You gave him all your power.

Your excuse of not leaving him because of the children is just a reason to not deal with something you didn’t think you could do. The living situation with his temper and actions has been more frightening for the children than getting a divorce and finding an alternative living arrangement. You are still allowing him to make all your decisions for you.

It is time to step up and take responsibility for your own future. Spending all your time in dreams is being disrespectful to yourself and those around you. Where are the children while you are in your fantasy world? Do you think they are in any better position than you in standing up to their father and facing reality?

Your brief contact with another potential partner was doomed to failure because you didn’t believe you deserved to have happiness since your power is still in the hands of your husband. Ask yourself: Who is important to you?

Your husband’s future is up to him. He has always been a bully because it is the only way he feels he can be in control. He is basically a very fearful individual but is beginning to realize he doesn’t have to be disrespectful to others.

What you must do is decide if you want to be completely responsible for yourself. If you do, you must learn to love yourself enough to do what resonates within you and not let others push you around. The choice is yours.