Recurring life lesson
QUESTION: Masters, I am beginning to recognize that some of my daily and life choices are being guided by unconscious shame. I’m catching myself in moments when I back away from a central role in something I am doing things I would love to do. I have recollections of being shamed as a child by parents and teachers, and now as an adult shaming and hiding patterns are playing out. Masters, do you have guidance in freeing myself from these patterns of hiding out of shame? ~Cath, Australia
ANSWER: Shame, with a lack of self-confidence and self-love, has figured prominently throughout your life. These earlier life situations are repeating themselves because they have become “permanent” belief systems that you have allowed to remain. Whether or not you consciously recognize them, they are the rules and regulations by which you conduct your life and behavior. It is time to see them, erase them, and replace them.
As the body of a soul having a human experience starts its journey, it mimics the actions around it. If those activities are ways of behaving, honoring others, accepting concepts, the mind unconsciously catalogues them as needed beliefs to get along in society. The conscious thinking mind is totally unaware of the process.
All the statements directed toward the person are taken in. If they contain a sense of displeasure by others concerning your behavior, the mind unconsciously records the disdain of society and brands those actions as something to be avoided. If they seem to provide the opinions of others as an identity for you, you accept it as being truthful and who you are.
You have to figure out who you are. Who do you want to be? How do you desire to be seen by others? What is the feeling you have when you find yourself holding back? Start by examining the fears and doubts that spring up in daily situations. These are beacons being given out by your life lessons.
When you hear a voice from your past saying that you are not good enough for something, stop and ask why. Let the moment take you back to the actual incident and then look at it with your adult eyes, not the impressionable child eyes. See that the shame was foisted upon you by another and really had nothing to do with your actions. At that point, take and consciously erase the whole emotional impact of the event from your belief systems.
Replace the erased space with the sense that you can do anything you put your heart into. Accept that you are a piece of Source energy and have all the powers and abilities of Source. You are fantastic and capable of creating any type of reality you desire.