Dealing with family
QUESTION: Masters I am pretty sure that my husband is my twin flame, I love him dearly. However, I am having a hard time dealing with his parents and sisters. They are all very superficial and materialistic people, they seem to be obsessive about us and they are always trying to control our lives. I am struggling to set boundaries but I don’t want to hurt my husband’s feelings. I usually feel drained and exhausted every time I need to be with them and because of that I don’t want to meet them very often. Why are they so difficult to deal with? What can I do about it? Should my husband be the one to set boundaries? Should I ask him to do so? ~Matilda, Brazil
ANSWER: The magic in maintaining and containing relationships is communication. To have that perfect sharing relationship, it is imperative that your husband be aware of all of your feelings, both between you and him, and between you and the other members of his family. Let him know how they impinge on your life and that they take your energy when they are near so that you are exhausted.
Your husband is not your twin flame; if he were, the only thing either of you would see in this world is each other. You would not feel the need to interact with anyone else. His focus would be on you alone, and he would not have any contact with his family.
His family is jealous of the connection the two of you share. You are content, happy, and positive most of the time, which intrigues them because they tend to be negative, unhappy, and angry. He has grown up with their energy around him and has built up a barrier to its affecting him. Unless you explain to him the impact their actions have upon you, he will not recognize the problem.
You must accept that he is on his own journey, and dealing with his family is part of that trip. That does not mean that you have an obligation to spend any more time with them than is comfortable for you. Another possibility is for you to surround yourself with positive energy every time you have contact with them so they are not able to steal your energy. Whenever they try to control your life, thank them for their interest and tell them you have considered their input and it doesn’t feel suitable to you.