Not accepting involvement

QUESTION: Masters, I am in a fantastic process of self-knowledge and awareness and I feel very happy about it. My life came full of lessons, but always around me, never me directly. I never be afraid to get involved intensely and face changes. But I realize that after a quiet period, happens something new for me to deal with my anxiety and patience, it is not my problem but “the other” (Family, Love, stepdaughter). I am correct in my thinking? I need to pay attention to something special? ~Daniele, Brazil

ANSWER: You need to step into reality. The reason you always sensed the lessons were for everyone else and never for you was that you were holding yourself back from truly feeling anything. Being a witness of others’ lessons is a way to see possibilities, but you cannot learn and understand.

The fear, anxiety, and impatience are an indication of “your” lessons. These sensations are signposts that a lesson is staring you in the face. They are your problems, as you say. They are your lessons.

Whenever you feel one of these fears or doubts, stop and ask yourself why this feeling has come to you. Your higher self, or unconscious, will give you a sense of its origin. Once you know from where it arose, you can confront the situation and work through the energy until you understand how it affects your life.

Live in the moment and reach out to each situation presented to you. Always ask yourself how you feel about it, not what you think about it. If you spend all your time in your mind where everything has been pre-judged, such as that these problems all belong to someone else, you will become stagnant and blocked from any forward movement.

You need to open yourself to your vulnerability, the realization that you are not perfect and that you have lessons with which to deal. Everyone has total freedom of choice, so it is all right if you do not choose to confront your lessons. Just know that you will not be able to grow in wisdom if you avoid them.