Family interaction
QUESTION: Masters, I am married and have particular difficulty understanding the relationship of my husband with my youngest son, I am extremely attached and I cannot take part unless I make the effort to do whatever they want, but that does not make part my nature, what happens in this relationship which my function in this relationship? I have 3 children, I love very much my children, but I have no attachment to them, I am guiding them, I also like that with everyone else, totally detached. Is there something wrong with me in this regard? ~Tais, Swizerland
ANSWER: You see your children as possessions and are jealous of the close personal relationship that exists between your youngest and your husband. You have a fear that your son can only love one of you, and you have to insinuate yourself between husband and son to feel safe. Your son loves both of you, but you are beginning to worry him with your possessiveness.
You do not accept or love yourself and can love another only to the degree you feel love for yourself. Acceptance is what will provide any attachment or sense of belonging in a family. You see only yourself and do not see or feel the needs of any of the other members of your family.
It is not wrong to be unable to attach to or attract other people, but it limits the life lessons you can learn. Lack of interaction puts you on the outside of any situation, merely observing and not able to take part. It is possible to see how others are learning their lessons, but you have no actual experience.
One of your life lessons was to be able to see that you “stood apart” from the rest of the world and to decide what, if anything, you wished to do about it. You can spend this entire existence as an observer, or you can choose to open to others and start interacting with them.
You have a barrier around yourself that prevents you from feeling anyone else. As long as this remains, your sensitivity is shielded from the energy around you and others. To open or remove this blockage, you must want to remove it. You must reach out and touch the energy that exists. You will be able to feel both the positive, loving energy and the negative, disruptive energy. Feeling this, you can choose that which you want to have in your life and push away what you don’t desire. This will allow you to attach to those from whom you feel love.