Child’s choice of homosexuality

QUESTION: Masters, I’m going through a very difficult phase in my life. My fifteen-year-old told me they are a homosexual. I cannot deal with this situation. My soul hurts the deepest pain I’ve ever felt. An indescribable pain. I would have acceptance and wisdom to address this issue. I ask for guidance. ~Maria, Brazil

ANSWER: Every soul enters a body on Earth to live in a positive/negative duality to experience, and experiment with, freedom of choice. Most of the lessons involve a single soul, but sometimes you have pre-arranged for a soul who is sharing your same time line to present situations to you that will allow you to face a life lesson.

You and your child agreed to be together. They wished to experience homosexuality, with all the societal difficulties that engenders. You wished to deal with the belief systems you have gathered throughout this life, with all their prejudices and judgments.

Your child’s life is theirs to live, not yours to control. The fact that something they desire to do is repugnant to you does not make it wrong for them. You are not within their body or psyche, so you do not know how they feel. Your beliefs are accepted by you as a way to live your life, but that does not mean you can impose your beliefs upon them.

There is one caveat here: While a child of yours lives in your house, you can make certain rules and regulations they must abide by, or you can bar them from the house and no longer provide for their needs. This will probably not change the way they feel about things, and they may choose to leave the house as soon as possible, but it is a means of getting your way.

You also need to deal with the intensity of your reaction to this announcement. Why is it affecting you so severely? Does it remind you of some other situation from which you have been hiding? Or are you only concerned with what “neighbors” or church members will think? Examine your thoughts and the reasoning behind them to help you see what the issue really is in this situation.