Father’s obligation

QUESTION: Masters my father made a fortune in his lifetime. While he has gifted me and my siblings and helped many, most was lavished on his wife and himself. While grateful for the small amount of security it provided, my siblings and I all struggle financially. Our step-mother who created none of this wealth will be in control when my father is gone. It is unclear if she will carry on his wishes and continue financial support. I am ready to independently create and experience my own abundance and security. I know all things are possible…what am I missing or not getting to bring this to fruition? What is the big lesson for our family that we wanted to learn? ~S, USA

ANSWER: Souls have no obligation to intercede in anyone else’s life. Your father owes you nothing. What he has slaved to receive is the fulfillment of the labors of his own work. What he does with his rewards is no one’s business but his. Once you and your siblings reached adulthood, he didn’t even have a societal mandate to continue providing for you. The fact that he did is an indication of his giving nature.

He has observed that his children have not used their resources to provide adequately for themselves, but he also does not want any possible initiative to be replaced by his continuing to bail you out and hold you up instead of forcing you to seek ways to take care of your own needs. He did not have anyone supporting him, and he thinks all of you can reach the pinnacle to which he has ascended if you put in the effort.

When people get things too easily, they don’t search out means to procure on their own. As you have said, you are ready to create and experience your own abundance and security – what has taken you so long to determine the necessity? Did you think that if you had done this before, he would stop with the handouts? A handout always means less work.

What has made it slow going in your journey to security is your attitude about your father’s money and the relationship with his wife. You are jealous of the fact that he chooses to provide for his wife instead of his children. That is his choice. All souls have freedom of choice. She has been able to provide emotional and physical support of which only a spouse is capable.

Once your father returns Home, what happens to the money will first be determined by his wishes as substantiated in a written will. All states honor the position of the mate, if one exists, over that of the children.

The lesson for you is not to depend on handouts. Chart your own journey and create it as your needs dictate. Understanding that your father has no obligation to gift you with anything more, let your anger and anticipation go. If your stepmother receives what is left of his estate, that is your father’s wish or he would have made other arrangements. Accept his decision.