What’s important, my opinions or others’?
Question: Masters I’m in a relationship with a man who is loving and committed to me; he has great values and is very much in love. The issue is that we come from very different backgrounds. He is a singer who succeeded but comes from a humble family and is a man of color. On the other hand, I earn a bit less than him but have a steady career (unlike his) and come from a family with position. I love him as a person but don’t know if I’ll ever feel at ease with him as a man. I don’t seem to be
accepting very well my own and other people’s prejudice, and also the fact that my lifestyle with him may be less than what I want. Should I leave him and search for someone who resonates more with me? ~Paty, Brazil
ANSWER: Personal prejudices should not have an impact on sexual relationships or the way you see a person as a potential partner. You are stating that how society might view your lover is more important to you than the fact that he would do anything for you and loves you beyond question. You have made the judgment, with the help of what others think, that he is not worthy of you.
What makes you think that you are so great? If your positions were reversed, would you voluntarily walk away from him because others think that you may not be good enough? Are you being blinded and influenced by what others may say, and giving up your own feelings to fit into society? Take your decision-making power back from those to whom you have so readily bowed.
Souls come to Earth to learn who they are as a soul, and that all souls are from the same Source and have the same abilities and powers. The thoughts that you have once you get here create a set of belief systems by which you run your life. The first beliefs come from parents, teachers, and society and are accepted without question.
What a lot of souls do not understand is that part of your life’s journey is to review these rules and see if they feel good to you and if you wish to keep allowing them to control your decisions in life. If you wish to follow what you believe is “written in stone” – such as “I am better than he” or “he is not good enough for me” – then let him know about your prejudices, received from family and friends, and move on.
Right now your secret disapproval of him is not treating him fairly. Tell him what you think and why you think it. If you don’t truly know why you have these ideas, then it is time to review your beliefs and see which ones resonate with you. If third-dimensional ego lifestyle is more important to you than a loving, sharing companion, it is time to find a shallow individual who shares your prejudices.
Honor yourself and him by defining why you are acting the way you are. Make it your own decision, not just an echo of your believed position in society.