Thinking too much, stuck in beliefs
QUESTION: Masters, I would like to get some answers. I have many doubts about which way to go in my spirituality, and I often felt that my faith was gone, I feel that nothing nourishes me, and I try something objectively and do not know where look for. Teachers you know who I am and what I seek can guide me in some way? and also wanted to ask about my mother who lives in a dilemma in the relationship with my father, he’s a lousy husband and makes use of drugs and alcohol, and she can never leave him, why teachers? Why is it so hard for her? What happened in other lives to be like this? ~Talita, Brasil
ANSWER: You analyze everything that comes into your life. In addition, you develop specific expectations for what you want in your life. You are sabotaging yourself by demanding certain results from your actions. You need to have faith in yourself, not in someone else or some doctrine or some dream of what you think you need or want.
Stop thinking about everything and start feeling the direction in which you should proceed. Nothing is right or wrong – everything is just an experience. Start following those intuitive feelings you get that you question and analyze. Trust they appear for a reason. Souls pull to themselves what they need to experience.
Your mother is a very weak, easily manipulated, fearful person who thinks she is receiving the life she deserves. She needs to decide why she cannot leave your father and his abusive lifestyle. She needs to realize that the choice to leave is hers alone.
Work with your mother on knowing what self-confidence means. Help her to see that she is accepting her husband’s complete control, and it is only possible because she is allowing it. Getting out of the marriage is not a failure but an acknowledgment of her own power. The choice is hers to accept; she is as good as he and does not deserve the treatment he is dishing out.