A lesson in balancing

QUESTION: Masters I have a friend who I have recently reconnected with after some advice from an Akashic records reading. He convinced himself years ago that I’d betrayed him, this does not correspond to my memory of the time but to this day he keeps coming back to this seemingly invented betrayal. I can’t keep entertaining his belief that I owe him something – however I do wish him to be well. Could you please state what I might benefit from my continued association with him? If any. Perhaps why the records reading advised such a reconnection? And if you are able to elaborate on the origin of this “betrayal” and why he needs to keep reminding me of it. ~Steven, UK

ANSWER: Your friend has never had confidence in his “readings” of situations, so he has developed an imagination that always makes him the hero and makes any other participants lacking in grace, sincerity, truthfulness, and sharing. Whenever a situation arises where he has misread or mishandled an event, where he should accept his faults and apologize, he instead shifts all the blame to the other party and demands validation of his own actions. As we have said many times, each soul creates their own reality, and his does not conform to anyone else’s.

One of your life lessons was to accept that all people are different and may not agree with you. The lesson, therefore, involves how you handle such situations and what you can learn from them. In a situation such as this, you can confront him, as you have done several times with your truth; you can argue and fail to see that he is steadfast in his recollection; and you can walk away, which you did.

Another way of handling the matter is to say to him that your point of view does not jibe with his, but that you honor his right to his own view and that it is time to drop the discussions and move on to other things. Arguing with him over the matter serves no one. Back away and refuse to fight.

Dealing with the control dramas that come about during disagreements of this type is why you were directed back into this scenario. Without reaching a comfort level in dealing with disputes, you are missing a sensitization to the feelings of others. You don’t have to love the humans you are spending time with, but you need to honor their souls for the choices they have made.

The “betrayal” had more to do with your not wholeheartedly agreeing with your friend’s conclusions than any specific activity in which you engaged. Don’t spend any of your time worrying about it. The version he holds dear to him has changed over the years to match the insecurities of the moment. When you learn to not let his singlemindedness affect you any longer, you are ready to move on if you choose.