Emotional love
QUESTION: I have a very strong feeling for a married man. I cannot stop thinking about him. We used to work together and were living in the same city. I moved on, changed my life and my job, and moved to another city far away from him, but I still think about him all the time. I have a Reiki master who tells me that this man is the love of my life and that I have to bring him to the light. He is married and he is going to have another child, and I thought that we were not going to meet each other anymore. Then I went to a Congress and he was there. I didn´t know he would go. When I saw him, he looked at me and didn´t say hi; he has run away. He is far away from me now. I would like to know how can I bring him to the light. Are we going to stay together as my Reiki master and another spirit are telling me? Do I have to believe them? Do I have to be patient? I really love him. Is there a way to forget him? ~ALD, Brazil
ANSWER: You do not have to do anything that anyone else says to you. Being a soul having a physical experience (a human life), you have total freedom of choice to choose everything that affects you. You are on a journey of discovery about why you chose to come to Earth. It is a solitary journey in that no one can influence what you wish to experience. So too is this man. No one, not you or anyone else, can influence him to do anything he does not choose. That means that no one can influence others to go to the light unless it is their choice to do so. For your information, this gentleman is not in the dark.
What others are sensing around you is your concentration directed to this man. They feel your dedication to making some type of union between the two of you. This has led them to believe, because the energy is so strong, that this man is the love of your life. You have convinced yourself that he could be the love you have not had, but that is for lack of other candidates.
He does not feel anything for you. He is happily married and very much in love with and involved in his family. You have what is like a school crush on the most popular boy in class. You dream about being together when you feel depressed and lonely, and this only makes it seem more real that you belong together.
You have not moved on as you say. You have continued to count the passage of time but you are frozen in the first moment when you could see yourself in this man’s arms. You have written a whole stage play of your desired life and gone over and over your lines. It is time to write a new play with a new cast.