Being played for a chump

QUESTION:  Masters I have a man in my life who I have known for about 11 years. We have lost touched and re-connected many times. I feel very connected to him and sometimes feel so much love coming from him but then he will leave me for another woman, this has happened three times. It feels shattering, He’s often cruel to the other woman in his life but less so with me. Like he tries to shelter me. I love him so much and I feel lost every time he leaves. I’m not sure if he is a good person but I feel very close to him. What are our lessons? ~J.C., U.S.A

ANSWER: You are an easy touch for this philandering manipulator. He appears to treat you better than the others because he knows you will repeatedly accept him back regardless of what he has done. Your connection to him is a comfort in knowing exactly what he will do, a desire that he will stay longer this time, and the hope that he will at least return once again but sooner than before.

The love you think you feel coming from him is a reflection of your love, which you are sending to him. He is incapable of feeling or understanding what love is – for him it is all about the sexual act and the boosting of his ego when having total control of the situation. When he returns, you treat him like a returning hero and worship at his feet.

His “cruelty” is a reflection of the way he feels about all women. You only know the way he treats others because of things he has said, which is only the way he observes things from his egotistical vantage point. He can be very compassionate to get what he desires, but the world is all about him and his needs. Don’t fool yourself: you are just a means to an end for him.

You are infatuated with this “bad boy” image. He is not a person who would be considered good by most of society, even if admired by some men for his freedom of being able to go bed hopping.

Souls have freedom of choice, so you can continue to offer yourself up on the altar of this man’s “girl in every port” mentality or bring a sharing, caring person into your life who wants to create a stable, loving relationship. The choice is up to you; there are many, many more males out there.