Self-choices and lessons

QUESTION: Masters, my daughter has died. When we are reunited in the spirit world, can we decide never to be separated again? Or do the guides decide these things? I have told her to wait for me so that we can be together. Why did she die? Was it pre-arranged? Was it my failing as a mother that contributed to her ending her life? What lessons did we both have to learn from this experience? If a suicide is not predetermined—why doesn’t something happen to stop it? My daughter died while I was cooking in the kitchen and her friend slept less than a meter from her. If it was not predestined, wouldn’t something different have happened–that is, I could have walked into the room, her friend could have woken up, the phone could have rung? Why would anyone agree to so much suffering in life? ~Luci, Australia

ANSWER: Every soul makes its own decisions about whom they spend time with and when they incarnate together. No one else – guide, adviser or other soul – makes those choices for them. Once you are together again, you will talk and decide what you feel is the best for each of you in your continuing existence, which, remember, is eternal.

Your daughter chose the lessons she came to Earth to learn. Some of the lessons involved making contracts with you and others who were to share the planet at the same time. She had chosen to return early mainly for the opportunity it gave to those who remained behind to examine their feelings and understanding about why some choices are made and what can be learned from them.

Your lessons involved guilt, abandonment, and a sense of betrayal. Her friend questions the entire event and what she should have seen, known, and done to prevent it. Other family and friends have done the “what if” routine as a way of trying to understand what your daughter did. But this is not about your daughter as much as it is about the evolution of those who remained behind and their understanding about the journey of the soul from one lifetime to another.

It is only in negativity and suffering that the soul has the experiences that awaken it to the wisdom of the lesson chosen and how to learn from it and apply that knowledge to all other similar events in life.