Obligations or contracts
QUESTION: Masters, can you please help me understand the lessons I am learning in regard to my marriage? When I was drawn towards my husband 14 years ago and I investigated the karma between us, I found I was taken away from her (him) in a past life and she never knew what had happened to me. I felt, because of this, it was right to stay with him for the rest of his life (he is thirty years older than me.) I did this gladly, if naively, but it has proved much more difficult for me than I had imagined, as it has lasted so long and I have felt very restricted and confined. I am now aware of many other lives I have shared with my husband where we were mostly on opposite sides of religious splits. We have worked through so much, but the deep longing to be on my own again has not gone away. It does not seem right to leave someone in their eighties, yet it is hard for me to patiently wait for the organic change that his eventual passing will bring. What is the soul contract between us and how long will it take to work it out? ~Maggie
ANSWER: One of your life-lessons is to examine the reasons that you felt compelled to enter into this marriage in the first place. A past-life contract that you sense might not have been understood by the other party is not a valid reason to commit to a second time around.
When you make contracts with others to provide them with an experience such as disappearing and allowing them to feel the despair of not knowing what happened to you and the feeling of abandonment, you are facilitating their lessons and your part of the contract is complete. You did not contract to stay around until they understood what the experience was all about.
It is time to be honest with yourself and ask: why did I enter into this marriage? You seem to imply that you did not think he was going to be around for all that long so it would be a short gig. Your husband is someone with whom you have had many lifetimes, but this lifetime was for you to learn discernment. “When do I really have an obligation to another if there is not a contract between us?” You never asked that question before jumping in.
Your husband is in the stage of being an energy vampire. He is being sustained partially by the energy of your essence that he is siphoning off. He will be able to maintain this as long as you allow it. If you feel you want to remain, that is your freedom of choice. Your contracts with him are complete.