Hurting the one you love
QUESTION: Masters, my mother and I share a very difficult relationship in which we keep hurting each other. I am not a nasty person, but I was so furious about certain things that she did that I said something awful to her. I feel horrible about this. Please can you shed any light on why we keep hurting each other? ~Preetha
ANSWER: You and your mother have a very difficult contractual relationship. This is not the first lifetime that you have shared. In each one you have had cantankerous relationships. In the last life she cheated you out of your rightful money, and in the one before that you stole her farm out from under her. In this lifetime all the emotions still firing from past lives are affecting this one.
You are very alike in mannerisms, wants, desires, and also the need for revenge. At Home you are the best of friends and when you decide to come down to Earth at the same time you choose to make your most difficult lessons with each other.
For this lifetime you desired to learn about being able to discern your own feelings from those generated by others. To start to learn this lesson it is necessary to get to know yourself and what your essence (your unconditionally loving soul) feels like. Until you can interact with another and not get base feelings of guilt, fear, hate, and loathing you have not touched your own essence.
You cannot be affected by another’s actions or thoughts unless you accept the things they say to be valid. If you know who you are, and that you are a perfect magnificent soul, what others say will have no effect upon you. The same is true about your mother. She will not be affected by what you say unless she believes that what you say is true.
At a soul level you and your mother are identical-you are both fantastic, loving souls. Be ready to be that person for your mother here on Earth, and see if you can trigger the same response in her. If she cannot accept her true self at this time, then at least you can let go of the energy the past has stirred in you and be ready for a time when she too remembers who she really is.