Two bites of the apple

QUESTION: Masters, please advise me. My husband left me for his old girlfriend. Some 11-12 years ago they had a strange relationship. The relationship didn’t last long, she went back to her husband. Soon after this separation he met me and we fell passionately in love and married. During a rough period this old girlfriend pops up (June 2010) in financial trouble and he helps her with a substantial sum and even lets her work in the company. She has this strange spell over him and ends our marriage. Within a month of this he sets up a new life with her giving her virtually everything that I worked for, while we were married and living together. I am heartbroken, but am rebuilding my life and business looking forward to and aiming for success. My husband still wants me in his future. Why, what direction should I take? ~Carolien, The Netherlands

ANSWER: Your husband is a scared little boy who craves attention and control but feels more comfortable when someone is dominating him because then he has no responsibility. This girlfriend brings all kinds of emotional baggage from their first encounter into their life. She has hypnotized your husband willingly to control him as a puppet for her own desires.

She will bleed him dry of emotional responses, and when he wants to re-assume control if he draws on his strength within, she will walk away as she did before. She may also seek someone who is weaker than your husband and who has more resources available. Your husband wants you available for the future because he knows this present situation will not last. Don’t play second fiddle. Be the concertmaster of your own life—there are many harmonious players out there.

This is a time for you to discover your own power and abilities. You have been over-shadowed by your husband in the business world and now you may shine. You can create something far bigger and better than what you had. Tap into the intuitive abilities right beneath the surface. Create a vision for success, send the plan out to the universe, and be ready to receive.