Being human living in society

QUESTION: Masters, although, as a couple, we love each other, we seem to be struggling to let go of our ego and move to an unconditionally loving relationship. Are we missing something here? Is this a repeat of a previous pattern we haven’t mastered? Your insight into what might help is appreciated. ~D., UK

ANSWER: Unconditional love is a hard thing to find when you are still in a physical body and dealing with the third-dimensional duality. That type of love is easy to find when there is no negativity around and you never have a need to judge, rate, or grade someone else’s behavior. In other words, any place but on Earth!

Everything that you do is done within the realm of a society that contributes rules and regulations to your everyday behavior, whether or not you accept them as being a part of your personal belief system. You would get the opinion of family, friends, and colleagues about the way the two of you live your lives if not in strict compliance with societal norms. This is not bad if you feel comfortable with it.

To live your lives in unconditional love would be to allow (with acceptance) your partner to do whatever they wish to do whenever they wish to do it. That would include having affairs with other people, spending all your money, selling your favorite things, and not paying any attention to what you have to say, while you sit by unconditionally loving that they have the right to do such things.

Doesn’t sound so good now, does it? The spiritual path to enlightenment and being closer to your true self as a soul – a piece of Source – is to shed as much negativity as you possibly can and place your egoist judgment on hold. Every time you sense you are judging your partner, step back and ask what it is that is causing you to do so. Fears and doubts point the way to life lessons you came to work through, confront, and send on their way. This will help both of you grow.

This “difficulty” you perceive has nothing to do with past lives except that searching for the spiritual path is the purpose for coming to Earth in the first place. You are doing very well with this journey since you have identified ego as a problem and are examining what being free of ego would mean to you.

Keep at your work and you will get as close to unconditional love, on Earth, as is possible without compromising who you are.