What are a daughter’s duties?
QUESTION: Masters I want to understand my mother better. Issues have resurfaced since closely being with my parents (92) with their health issues and moving them into a retirement home. We know my mother’s inner dialogues have never been loving and that contributed to her rages when we were young. I also got that a lack of correct nutrition directly contributed to her intense irritably in her midlife. From ages 45 – 60s, was that narcissism that made her so “crazy” especially around Anita Bryant times, and not wanting to get family therapy? We tread a thin line in knowing when to push her and when she is being a princess. What have I misunderstood about her and what need I pay attention to in her remaining years. (You know I know we are all happy Source oversouls plotting out our lives for fun & learning.) ~Margaret, USA
ANSWER: Your mother has always been a very bitter person living in negativity. She is afraid of everything and strikes out against people so they won’t recognize her fear. When she compares herself with others, she always finds herself wanting so she tries to make all those around her as miserable as she feels; it is her way of hiding in full view of others.
She watched you as children and was jealous because she thought you were having a better life than she had, so she tried to ruin it in any way she could. This was all part of her chosen life lesson of recognizing she is a soul with Source energy. She feels abandoned and abused.
Lack of good nutrition did affect her nervous system and glands, but that was only secondary to the choices she made. She had to fight a sense of unease due to a weak constitution, but she chose to be unhappy and mad all the time. She would not get therapy because then someone might know how she hated herself and was always afraid. She had an idea of how to make herself feel better, but she chose not to do it.
You have a journey of your own, independent from hers. You have no spiritual responsibility for her life and choices unless you choose to be involved – then you are giving up your power to her and saying “do with me what you want.” She is like an animal or a child, seeing how far she can push you in order to feel superior. Every time you give into her, she rejoices in her power.
For your own sanity, maintain control in your world and don’t give in to her demands. She is always testing to see how much control she has. Honor yourself and live your own life.