Cheating husband

QUESTION: Masters, recently my very faithful & loving husband met a girl overseas and had physical intimacy with her. He believes she is his twin flame as they had such a strong sexual and mental connection. Now he can’t stop thinking about her. It is ruining the family life and slowly me. He sincerely wants to stay with me but he is thinking about her all the time. I don’t know whether to leave him or not, or if he will ever be able to connect in the way with me again. Is she really his twin flame as I suspect she is out for his money as well? Please tell who is she and her real intentions and should I forgive my husband. He sincerely wants to try for this relationship again but I can’t forget the hurt and pain that he inflicted on me. ~Santhi, Singapore

ANSWER: Both you and your husband are involved in a series of lessons. You have been co-dependent since you met. Both of you have been able to grow a lot because each of you only had to deal with the issues that the other didn’t. This recent change in your relationship has opened up all the things for which the other person has not been responsible, and has asked each of you if you are ready to learn these lessons.

This woman is not your husband’s twin flame or he would not have been able to tear himself away to come back to you. She is someone with whom he made a contract to come into his life at this time and force him to think about what he values in life. Is his love for you and the family—and he does love you—more important to him than the excitement of a dangerous-feeling fling? There is no permanence with this woman but a lot of volatility and adventure, a vacation he seeks to prolong.

Your husband has been craving action, the sensation of not being tied down or obligated, as he has been feeling. His lesson is to determine what he wants from his life; the choice is his. It is possible to love two different women for two very different reasons. You have been his support; she his current excitement.

Your lesson involves what you feel about yourself. Are you strong enough to trust your feelings in this situation and follow through with them? You must take a look at why the hurt and pain was so strong. You can feel negative emotions only if you let them in and feel you somehow deserve them. Your husband’s actions are a part of his life plan; neither of you owns the other. You are perfectly right in not tolerating his behavior, but you did nothing wrong so why feel hurt or pain? You are a magnificent soul on a journey. You choose the direction and the stops along the way. Let your innermost feelings tell you what to do next. You have a keen intuition; allow it to guide you.