Making it happen for you
QUESTION: Masters, I met someone with many common interests and complementary strengths and weaknesses. I’ve only known her for a month, but it’s like we’ve known each other for lifetimes. It would feel perfect if we could sync our schedules. Is she my soul mate? If so, how do I “keep the ball rolling” as she works 60+ hours a week and takes classes? Sometimes there’s no time to even carry a text message conversation. How can I judge if she feels the same about me in times when communication is near impossible? If she is who I think she is, how do I get over my own fears/worries/doubts/frustrations in times of sporadic communication? To clarify, I understand there’s a lot happening. I’m not trying to capitalize her time. I like to hear she’s OK and not burned out, and if she’s my soul mate, I don’t intend to miss out. ~Pat, USA
ANSWER: This young, ambitious lady is not a soul mate. She is just the first female you have become acquainted with who would be a perfect match for you. There are many more out there; she is not the only one. That is not to say that, all things being considered, it would never work out for the two of you.
So far everything has been mostly one-sided. Her only concerns right now are her career and moving ahead in life. She feels that she is not ready to become involved in a relationship because she does not have the time. She has not thought of you in the way you have thought of her because she knows it is an impossibility right now. She has trouble getting everything done that is required of her, and anything additional would derail her journey.
You have placed an incredible burden upon yourself by thinking she is your soul mate and you might have this one and only opportunity for love. Relax! Unconditional love, which comes from a soul mate, does not have elements of fear, frustrations, doubts, and worries. It flows and fills the time where both of you accommodate the relationship.
You now have an example of the type of person you need. Put your intention out to bring such a person to you who is ready to share in a partnership. And when it comes to seeing if she feels the same way about you that you do about her, ask.