Can’t call it quits

QUESTION: Masters, I have a friend, Simon, and we were very close. This past year we’ve had a rocky patch. Every time I try to walk away from the relationship I struggle. He doesn’t seem to be able to walk away either. The problem is we don’t have fun anymore and keep falling out. I can’t help but feel we are in some way connected on a deeper level. Are we meant to be together in any sense or has the time come to walk away altogether?   ~Andrea, UK

ANSWER: You and Simon are from the same soul group. You have incarnated many times together to help each other understand particular lessons. In this lifetime you were to help each other see how to open up to someone and feel what a sharing relationship is like. You have accomplished that purpose—just think back to the most intense encounters you have shared.

Once you have gotten to the point of understanding your lesson, you will have nothing else to teach each other, so you will be able to walk away permanently from the relationship. You had planned for a short interlude and not a lifetime encounter. You have both sensed that it was time to find another, and to apply what has been awakened, but that old familiarity keeps dragging you back together—much like the old, worn-out bedroom slippers you just cannot allow yourself to throw out. The new and unknown is scarier.

Your relationship has shifted now that you have completed your mission with each other. You are still soul mates, so there is still a comfortable sense in the other’s presence. It is up to your freedom of choice what you do from here on out. You can split completely so there is no temptation from past acts, you can remain confidants, or you can remain friends: it’s your choice.