Spiritual agreements

QUESTION: Masters, could you shed a light on spiritual agreements? I know that there was an agreement between me and this woman to be romantically together, however she has opted for another path. I dreamed about this particular relationship my entire life. And without going into details, her choice changes my life a lot and forces me to consider other possibilities that I am not comfortable with, like non-traditional relationships (e.g. polyamory) or even a life without romance. If a soul agrees to a relationship but then opts out, how can the other person still have the life they want? For people with my conditions, finding a relationship is hard and I was relying on that person to be with me; I really want a romance. Would someone else step in and eventually find their way to me, or do I have to “just deal with it”? ~Melissa, USA

ANSWER: Every soul has total freedom of choice in all aspects of their human existence. That means that they may choose to change an agreement they made with another. It is impossible to get another soul having its own physical experience to change their mind unless they agree to do so.

If one party to an agreement chooses not to fulfill the agreed actions, the other party had some forewarning before entering this life that that might occur. Of course, coming down with amnesia, you would have no recollection of such an eventuality.

Your major lesson this lifetime was being able to work through difficulties once you had set upon a course of action. Your consternation arises from your having created such strong expectations and having convinced yourself that nothing else was worth considering.

You have fixated on this individual to such a degree that you are certain you had a contract when you did not. She wanted a life of ambivalence toward sexual orientation and abhorrence of pushy, controlling people – which you have become.

You are on this life journey by yourself. Nothing anyone else does should make you feel you have been betrayed and abandoned. You are the only one responsible for your life and your lifestyle. There are no absolutes in a spiritual journey – just infinite possibilities.

Step away from your “hurt” and evaluate where you are now. The only person you can rely on is yourself. There are any number of people out there from whom you can get love. You must, however, accept and love yourself first before they will want to have anything to do with you.

Also, examine how you define yourself: “Who” are you? Are you sure of your identity? Or is this just another expectation that is limiting you in life?