Dealing with life lessons
QUESTION: Masters, can you please guide me? When a person is suffering, or feeling sad from some event should he try to bring himself from low vibration state of being to higher state of being immediately by diverting his mind or should he sink in the sad feeling completely like for a week or two then move forward. Which is higher form of dealing things spiritually? ~Sweety, India
ANSWER: The symptoms you describe are some indications letting you know that you are facing, or have just gone through, one of the life lessons you chose to deal with during your lifetime. Doubts and fears are also signs of lessons.
With each experience you draw to yourself, you have total freedom of choice in what you do. If you ignore it and divert to something else, you have not dealt with it and learned what it was you wanted. The same situation will either stay around or come back with more force in the future until you pay attention to it. But spiritually nothing is right or wrong.
“Sinking into it,” as you have said, is one way of looking at a means to examine and understand what caused this feeling in the first place – i.e., your desired lesson. But if you only wallow in it and don’t work to find your options, it is a waste of your time. The time that understanding will take can be anywhere from instantaneously to never. Don’t set time limits or expectations concerning results.
Realizing the possibilities for dealing with your lessons will make you more vigilant about these important events in your life. You have a tendency to over-think your actions instead of just feeling what the answer is for your problems and how to settle them.
Step back from the suffering and sadness and ask yourself: Why is it with me? What is connected to it? How did it originate? Answering these questions will help solve what lesson these physical characteristics represent. When you know the problem, you can then start working on a resolution. Once you understand, you will see the pain and suffering disappear.