Boring life, what now?

QUESTION: Masters, I would like to know if I have any assignments in this world. I never did anything exceptional, I have an empty life, meaningless, without joy, work only. I have never had a relationship, no love. I study too much, trying to understand where I left my life, because I did not see that I would have had a family. I always thought that no one would like me, because even my mother did not want me, I never knew my father. Maybe that has influenced, but I do not know if that’s right. I do volunteer work, but even that does not bring me more fulfillment. I feel too sad. Is there anything I can do to feel better about myself? ~Luciana, Brasil

ANSWER: One of your desired life lessons during this incarnation was to understand who you are as a soul and be able to create a meaningful life. Every person creates their own reality. If you don’t believe that something exists, it doesn’t. If you don’t think you can be loved, you will block any love that is sent to you from others. If you think it is raining even if the sun is shining, then for you it is a miserable, rainy day.

Since you lack self-confidence, feel you do not desire to be loved, and have not been loved up until now, you are incapable of opening yourself to love. Additionally, you feel sorry for yourself so you will not allow yourself to be happy even if things go right for you. Here’s a flash for you: You are capable of turning your life into a wonderful experience if you desire. Do you?

Even during your volunteer work, you are just going through the motions without engaging your emotions with what you are doing. Since society looks favorably on volunteering you tried it, seeking to get the appreciation of society. Things don’t work that way. The act of helping others is really for the purpose of helping yourself understand the situations others are going through so that you won’t have to experience them yourself. It is not for receiving gratification from those served. Do it because you love doing it, not for any other reason.

Put together a list of things you believe will make you happy. Form them into affirmations, stating that they already exist as you picture them. Repeat them to yourself every day as if they already exist. Before long you will see that they begin to become the experience that comes to you – your new reality.