Can’t see the forest for the trees

QUESTION: Masters I would like to know why my sister and I have had difficulties getting along since we were little, she was always very aggressive with me. I am currently having to live with her again and in a short time she is already disgusted with me. The reason was my boyfriend, who dirty the house and did not clean. My family does not like him, he really has serious family problems because he has been sexually abused and takes medication to treat anxiety. Does it really upset my progress? ~Carla, Argentina

ANSWER: Hello, is anyone home in your head? Put yourself in your sister’s position. She is being kind and generous to take in her down-in-the-dumps sister. Said sister then drags along an uncaring boyfriend – not a husband – who is a slob and uses his history as an excuse for being inconsiderate and disruptive. What would you think? How happy would you be with these events?

You live in a dream world where you think everything is about you, and you have no concept of the needs and desires of others. You have always been bailed out of difficult situations by family and friends and think your behavior is okay. It is time to take responsibility for your actions, including the decision to inflict your boyfriend on your family. The reason you dragged him along is because he makes you feel important and depends on you. You two are co-dependent.

Your difficulty with your sister comes from your attitude. She is very realistic and sees things as they are. You have always lived in a fantasy where you are the princess and think others must heed your needs and take care of you. It is time to open your eyes and grow up.

From a spiritual perspective, nothing is right or wrong, so you may continue on as you have always done or you can become aware of the world around you and engage in living. The choice is yours. But it is time to stop blaming everyone else but yourself for the way you are treated.