Allowing another to drag you down

QUESTION: Masters, I feel very indecisive. In the past, I worked to make progress with myself and lately I feel like I’m backtracking. I don’t know if this is something I’m imagining but I think it’s because of the negativity in my relationship with my girlfriend. I don’t know how to fix her insecurities. Could you tell me how to resolve this? I want to love her the way I did before. I want to make progress again. Also, just out of curiosity, what was our relationship in past lives? ~Db, Canada

ANSWER: Each soul has its own set of life lessons to be handled using freedom of choice. You have chosen to work on increasing your awareness of the universe and your spiritual side. Your girlfriend ignores anything that she cannot see and have everyone agree with. It is as if you have gone on to do post-graduate studies in life, and she is still working on understanding grammar school subjects.

You can try to explain to her what you have learned but she has to be open to hearing and understanding. She is not at this time. You can never make others do something unless they consent to the change within themselves.

You have several choices at this time. Consider that all your work has raised your vibration so that you are not as affected by negativity and can spend more time connected to unconditional love. Your girlfriend, like the majority of society, is drawn to ego judgment, which is imbued in negativity. This is the state you were at when you began the relationship, so you and she saw most situations in a similar light.

There are no right or wrong choices for a soul in a human experience. You may choose to continue to try to get her to raise her vibration. You may continue to live at her level, which will drag you down to her level – the backtracking that you are feeling. You may also find that in order for you to continue to grow into awareness, you should reduce the amount of time you spend in her presence. Or you may even see that finding someone more at your level of development will speed up your growth. The choice is yours.

This is the first life the two of you have spent together.