Frustrated, I want it easier

QUESTION: Masters, I am very confused!! I am confused about my spiritual growth as to how, where and when would I get a right direction. I am confused as to how can I control my anger, negativity and hatred. You always say to accept, love and forgive yourself and others, but how do we change our feelings is never explained. Don’t you think it is easier said than done?? I feel like I have been trying and failing since many lifetimes!! Please advise ~Pbm, India

ANSWER: It is a universal law of spiritual awakening that you draw to you what you wish to experience, and you are always exactly where you had decided to be when you are there. Stop trying to make things more confusing than they already are. Start accepting the path you tread, and live in the present moment without re-examining the past or trying to micro-manage the future.

No one is going to tell you what to do. Observe what is around you and go in the direction that feels the best to you. Anger, negativity, and hatred are choices. When something confronts you, you always have two choices: you can fight it or sit observing it, learning what not to do.

It is time to put your ego, which is what causes you to constantly judge things, out to pasture so you can learn without negativity. You can be hurt by the thoughts and actions of others only if you accept their opinions as true. Constantly ask yourself if you believe they are right in their judgments about you. When you know they are not, just ignore them and think positive thoughts. If you think they have some credibility, make the decision to change by becoming more positive.

If you do not judge you can never be angry, hateful, or negative. You are having problems changing because you allow yourself to react to others without thinking. Stop before you do anything in response to others, and ask yourself how you want to respond to them. Take your time with life and you will see it in a whole different light.