Decisions about life experiences

QUESTION: Masters: I am in a relationship where my head says it’s not right, we don’t suit each other and I’m not getting what I need from it. But my heart feels different. When we’re alone together it feels amazing and I feel such love. But when we’re among other people my head kicks in and it feels wrong again. It’s so confusing but I know there is a powerful lesson here. Can you help me to understand it? ~Suzanne, England

ANSWER:  Who ever said that there was only one aspect to life? Living in a duality you have negative and positive choices constantly confronting you. Oh, and don’t forget the influence of the ego and the higher self. You are here to learn lessons by using your freedom of choice. Those choices come from the input of your belief systems, your emotions, your physical reactions to events, and your inner dialogue.

Ever heard about opposites attracting? Your situation has some features from your physical body’s reactions to the connection between the two of you. Two peas fitting spooned into a pod, comfy and cozy. This is a lesson in enjoying the functions that can only be felt by the soul when in a physical body. Is that wrong? Not from a human or spiritual standpoint.

Now, let’s look at the facts. Your “head says it’s not right.” That means the ego part of you, with contributions from your beliefs coming from learning and society, doesn’t think you should be where you are. “I’m not getting what I need from it.” Again, judgment from beliefs and society with a little contribution from your higher self because you have a sense of what you are entitled to receive from others. This shows you know and accept your power and don’t want to give it away to anyone else.

The physical part of love and interaction is the part your soul needs for validation of your life as a partner to someone. The reaction you have when you are with others shows that, in your decisions concerning your lover, you defer to the opinions of others. Your head, your ego, doesn’t want you to be judged by others when you feel they disapprove of your choices. You can let them run your life, or you can ignore them and make your own choices. There is no right or wrong to this situation – just your abilities to make choices. Go with your feelings, not what others think.