Bound to a parent

QUESTION: Masters, I have always hated my father and he has always hated me. I feel he also has an evil entity attached to him that hates me too. In fact, whenever I get empowered, I get a nasty email from my father or a phone call or whatever trying to disempower me. He always tries to make my life miserable. The worst of all was when I asked for help for a small down payment on a condo 12 years ago. He wouldn’t do it and now real estate has gone insane. I want to know how to at least stop the cords and attacks from him and the entity. ~Neil, Canada

ANSWER: You and your father have shared many lifetimes, always with intense lessons between you. Hatred is one of the most intense emotions possible. When you hold on to hatred, it colors every other dealing you have with that person.

What you feel about your father is so severe that it radiates out from you and can be felt, not only by him, but by anyone around you. When you asked him for money he felt your anger and thought, “He can’t even put his anger away long enough to come peacefully to ask for money; why should I help such an ungrateful, hate-filled person?”

Your father is a very negative person but one who is very energy perceptive. He is attuned to your energy and can feel when things are getting a little more positive for you, so he reaches out and takes your growing positive mood to feed on the positive energy. You have been letting him do this by entering into a control-drama scenario with him. Let him go; ignore his attempts to draw you in.

People can take your power from you only if you allow them to. If you continue to carry this hatred for your father, any contact from him will strip you of power because the hatred, being so negative, lets your energy flow to him. If you accept that he is someone from whom you cannot learn in this lifetime and therefore do not need, you will be able to release the hold he has on you and take that negative space and fill it with unconditional love.

Enlightenment is releasing negative lesson energy and choosing to replace it with positive thoughts. He is not learning his lesson about hatred, but that does not mean you have to continue letting yours influence your daily life. Choose to be happy, peaceful, and loving. You have the choice to cut off all contact with him unless or until he becomes a more positive person.