More than one love
QUESTION: Masters, after several years of marriage, and two daughters, my wife was unhappy with the marriage and was involved with someone else. We separated for a few months, during which we suffered. I learned a lot on my personal journey. We came back to live together in order to build a more solid and more complete relationship, however, I realized that her feeling toward that person was very strong and I doubt if she found her soul mate and she should not have explored this relationship and lived longer. I was messing her happiness to go along with that person and should seek another relationship to me? Or I’m her soul gem and the presence of that other person in her life was just for the two of us could wake up to the necessary changes in our relationship? ~Igor, Brazil
ANSWER: Every soul who is in a human body can feel the energy of those with whom they come in contact. This is generally not a conscious knowing but rather a yearning or pulling toward another, particularly to those souls with whom they have shared previous lives.
Most people feel that, when they come to Earth, there is one and only one person of the opposite sex for them. This is not true. Sometimes it is not even a person of the opposing sex but of the same sex. People can grow apart if they do not grow spiritually at the same rate during a marriage.
Your wife loves you, but she also has affection for this other man. Just as a father can have love for each of his children at the same time, an adult can have a love for more than one. You and your wife had grown away from each other in the period before she found this man.
The future is up to the two of you. There is no right or wrong answer. There is nothing which says you have to stay with your wife, or she has to stay with you, or she has to go to this other person. You each have the freedom to choose which feels best to you. Do not stay together to try to make something work if you can see that it isn’t going to. Talk it out; let her know your feelings.
You have no obligation to leave to make her happy. You have to honor yourself. Do, or try to do, what you feel is right. But be able to accept when something is not working out and it is time to move on to something else. Love yourself enough to step back and look at all sides of the situation without emotion.