Dimensional relationships
QUESTION: Masters, my boyfriend had been suffering from depression since he had come out from prison. He was still on probation so he was still under control. When he was out, his mother was very controlling, and authoritative towards him. She didn’t like me at all because she felt threatened by me, that I would take away her control over him. After a few months, of being released, he committed suicide. I know he truly loved me but he just felt he could not escape the control, and wanted complete freedom from it all. I want to know why he was given such a hard life that he felt suicide was the only way out? I still love him and want to communicate with him in the spirit world. Would we be able to continue our relationship even when we’re in different realms? I’m still madly in love with him. ~Jyoti, United Kingdom
ANSWER: Your boyfriend chose very difficult lessons for this lifetime. The important concept here is that he was the one who chose these lessons before he came to Earth. He wanted to experience being controlled in many different ways – through the legal system, his mother, and even his love for you. His means of setting up most of these encounters was through the use of rebellion against the rules of others.
He chose his mother because she was controlling of all his actions from the beginning. His trouble with the authorities arose as he tried to “show” her that he could do whatever he wanted even if she didn’t like it. The law then showed him there were penalties for not doing what society wanted. After his release from prison, when he had thought he would be free, he found himself under the control of his mother again, and the parole authorities, and decided he had learned enough.
He never intended to spend a long life under the thumb of another. His suicide was so he could go Home and evaluate what he had learned and set up for his next desired experiences.
You agreed to be in his life to be where you are right now. The lessons from this are what it feels like to be abandoned, to explore the guilt you feel for not doing more or being able to prevent his departure, and finding the strength within you to move on and live your own life.
You can communicate with him from the Other Side but cannot establish a physical relationship. He is currently going through the debriefing process in which he examines all the things that happened and figures out what he learned and what he would do differently. He will be engaged in numerous projects when he finishes.
Souls do not sit around and pine for those left behind – and those left behind should remember what they had but move on to connect with others who are still physical.