QUESTION: Masters, could you please help me understand self-love? For many years self-love represented “selfishness” to me in my mind (due to beliefs I gathered throughout my life) but now I want to feel love for myself as it seems to be the key to something magnificent. ~Kristina, Canada

ANSWER: Society wants all people to take care of the rest of society so it does not have to do it itself. Society has enforced the belief that to care about yourself, or particularly to talk about loving yourself, is to be selfish and not do your part to create a caring society.

All people on the planet are souls who are having their individual human experience. The lessons of one soul’s trip cannot be undertaken by another soul, because each soul is on a singular journey with a separate destination. According to society you can influence anyone on whom you expend attention. But since all souls have freedom to make their own choices about everything in their life, they can just laugh at your attempts to instruct and/or direct them and go their own way.

The soul is composed of unconditional love, which is all positive energy with not a drop of negativity. It is devoid of fear and doubt and powerful enough to manifest your desires. You are a piece of Source energy and, once you accept your latent abilities, you can create your own reality.

Getting rid of judgment sends the negative side of things packing. When you go inside to take an inventory of your feelings you will find that unconditional love. Embrace that love, accept it as a part of you, and become that love. That is self-love. Using that love of self, you will be able to deal with all things coming to you. You can love everything about yourself even if you don’t like all the little things that you can work on or change.

This type of self-love is not selfish. It helps you become a more loving person to others, because you can love another only to the extent to which you love yourself.