Is my lover my father?
QUESTION: Masters, I am writing about my relationship with my boyfriend of almost one year. When we met, I felt that I was “guided to meet him.” I had a strong feeling that I was to attend an event, and when I walked in the door of this event we were both at the door at the same time. As it is said, “it was love at first sight!” Even though I am giving him a hard time about marriage, there is no question of our devotion and love for each other. Masters, my boyfriend is 7 years younger than me. My father passed away when I was four. Sometimes when we are making love, I wonder if he is my father. My boyfriend feels that this is true. Can you tell me? ~Kaye, U.S.A.
ANSWER: Your lover is not the reincarnation of your father. However, he did meet your father’s soul when both were at Home before he came down. He confirmed for your father’s curiosity that he and you had made a contract before you were born for him to be available for a romantic relationship when the two of you were ready.
You have been waiting a long time for your boyfriend to come into your life. The seven years’ difference in age necessitated this wait for him to be ready. You should not concern yourself with this age variance. Both you and he are from the same soul group and you have been together in a number of past lives. This is what accounts for the familiarity that the two of you feel, not your belief that he could be your father reincarnated.
The more you fixate on that idea, the more it takes you away from the love that the two of you share. You must ask yourself if the love you feel for your boyfriend is true romantic love, or if it has become a familial love for a father on which you were never able to lavish daughterly affection. Accept that your boyfriend loves you as his lover, not as his daughter.
You are the one who is uncomfortable with the age difference; it does not bother him. Accept that your love is shared, and that is all that need concern you. Enjoy this magnificent man for who he is, not for who you wish he might be.